I'm a really shy girl, and I really feel that it's the worst thing ever. I'm attractive, I know that guys like me, but beause I'm shy I've never had a boyfriend and I'm 23 now. I really don't feel like I'll ever have one. I feel that outgoing and extroverted guys can feel that I am shy, and sometimes that makes them feel uncomfortable. Plus I think they would much rather be with a similar extroverted, talkative girl. Shy guys never make a move either, and they just end up with an extremely out going girl who throws herself on him even if he's not really into her.
I'm also quite anti social. I'm in at a place in my life where I just feel really alone. I wish I wasn't like this but I don't know what to do.
Most Helpful Guy
First of all well done for posting. This is one of those fantastic reasons GAG can be so amazing. Just so someone like yourself can have a voice.
Due to your personal make up this only adds to your feeling of being introvert. In your head you see yourself much worse than it actually is that's human nature. What's worse is women tend to take it even further and it then takes away what little confidence they did have evaporates.
It's ok to be shy and reserved many guys including myself find this cute and alluring. It brings out the proactive masculine side in you.. iam I'd guess considered an alpha male but actually iam not. It's the sporty man's man image that sits comfortable with me. Iam a big guy strong and fit. However I've all ways been drawn to the quiet woman sat down in the corner of a crowded room. Even though she's quiet I've all ways found they are so much more intelligent. If you can get them past the shyness they have so much more interesting things to say than the woman that's in your face..
Every time they all said the same thing. Why would you want to talk to me?
I've just overtime found them fascinating..
The only thing I ask of you is when your approached try to just keep going with the conversation. Even if you feel silly or stupid just keep talking about something anything. It will not matter just as long as the guy can see your open to conversation..
Good luck. Happy to chat any time private message me if you'd like.0
Most Helpful Girl
I'm also very shy, and I can tell you it sets me back a lot. I've been on many dates but I just can't seem to be myself because of nerves and because I'm shy. So yeah, it's really not fun, but I wouldn't say it's the worst thing ever. It's just something some guys will not care about (and they'll get to know you better) and most of them will. But then you'll also end up with the good ones so it's ok. I stopped ignoring this and told the guy straightforward I was shy because then I wouldn't feel so much pressure if things went wrong. I knew they were aware of it. And it works. I for instance have a few VERY good friends because it's hard to get to know me, but It's worth it for those who do. Just don't worry about it, I'm currently seeing a very shy guy myself and he hasn't dumped me yet so I guess not all of them like extroverts. It's kind of cute :)0