I'm not talking about if someone asks about past relationships (which in my opinion is way too early at least on the first date) but, for example, if you ask if they like a band and they say "well my ex was obsessed so I've heard of them" or something like that
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Totally depends on the reference and context. You have to make sure it's about another point so that your ex is not the subject, but also a statement that doesn't make it sound like you're hungup. Or at the very least are over your ex. That's the ideal. Other than that you are taking a risk.
Saying, "Sorry, this all feels pretty new to me right now. I just got out of a bad relationship with someone and I'm just trying to do thins better the an before " may go over well. But it depends on who you tell it too. How well the date Is going and so on. If the person I really into you and you get overwhelmed and apologize for getting that way, the state the quote gave above you probably won't have an issue.
But some people might hear that and think "she's not over him", while other guys would want to show you he's really a good guy and treat you well. So it's usually safer to not bring up an ex at all. But it's not necessarily fatal2