We're both 19. This guy I've been chatting with asked if I wanted to go get coffee sometime if I'm free. I wasn't sure if I would be able to but I wanted to hang with him. He asked if I'm free tomorow. I don't have my license nor permit so I can't drive. I don't know if he's going to pick me up or he expects us to meet eachother at the coffee place. I don't want him to think I'm a loser who is dependable or irresponsible. I don't know anyone who's willing to give me a ride. I don't even know if it's a date or just hanging out as friends.
Most Helpful Guy
When I was your age, it was not unusual for young people, especially girls, to not have a driver's licence.
Today, it is even more common because of the increasing number of barriers that government puts in the way of people who want to get a driver's licence.
My daughter did not get her licence until she was 22. I have a son who is 19 and has not even had a lesson.
Here I live, the government mandates a minimum of 10 one-hour lessons ($70 each), then a minimum of 100 hours of log-book driving in the company of someone who has had a licence for at least five years.
After that, one can go for a test. That is another $80.
If one passes the test (most are failed), a licence costs $150 for the first two years and then $150 for each five years thereafter.
My daughter was not in a hurry because of the cost and because she was pretty enough that there was no shortage of young men who offered to act as her personal taxi service.0
Most Helpful Girl
I would just be honest with him and tell him about your situation. Most people are understanding. If you live close enough, the drive may not even matter to him. If he has access to a car, or has a car, then hopefully he is okay with being the one to drive all the time.
At your age, it's not surprising as most people don't even have money for a car anyway. I got my first car at 22. But most of my friends still don't have cars and I am 26. Cars are expensive!
If you live in a rural town, and live far away from him. It's definitely going to impact things. But as long as you let him know your situation, then you two can work something out.
I would tell him sooner rather than later. He's going to need to know so that you two can plan to meet when either you have a ride there or he can drive you.0