I was approached by a senior close to two weeks ago and almost immediately became close which somewhat surprised me. She claimed I was interesting while having quiet talks to herself about how she's awkward or stupid to a point where she thought I couldn't hear. She gave me her number and we've actually hung out a lot since after I asked her to once on the weekend. She'd follow me to certain classes or randomly appear in the hallways and drag her fingers across me or a casual hug. I began to wonder the possibility of me going out with this girl, Because it already felt like we were in a way. Everytime we hung out, we just talk about anything and literally anything. During one of her conversations she mentions her boyfriend which admittedly made me a little upset, But I was confused as to how she'd show signs of affection towards me and hasn't spent time with him in a few weeks apparently. Everytime I'm with her all my worries, anxities, depression, that crap. Just seems to fade. I've asked her to go out about once and all the other times we have we met after school with no plans and just went with it. I would like to in a way, Give her negative feedback on her relationship instead of my honest opinion. However she doesn't enjoying talking about it with me because I assume I help take her mind off things. I would tell her all that I feel because I trust her, But there is the fact that I could be turned away and lose a friend that I'd rather not. She told me about how she was forced into her relationship which is a sad story (for the boyfriend) don't have any extra space to write. I can't fit everylittle detail here exactly, Or elaborate the specific way I'd like. I'll just ask, Is it right for me to want to be with her even though I know she's in a relationship. Is it right for me to want them to break up because I'd like to be with her and I don't feel that the guys she's would is treating her right or even trying to?
For a guy, My life has a lot of drama. I can't fit everything so I'd appreciate the help with what little room I have to explain (?
What Girls Said 1
I think you should tell her the way you feel. You two seem close, and i think she'll appreciate your honesty. If she doesn't feel the same way then you can assure her that it's okay and that you don't want to loose her friendship and with time things will get back to normal. If she feels the same way then you two can start a relationship. However keeping your feelings inside and not knowing won't do you any good. just take a chance otherwise you'll never know and you may regret it.0
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What Guys Said 1
If she was forced into the relationship agaisnt her will, then if her parents aren't Islamic, then you should be on the lookout in case it falls apart.
If she chooses to be in her relationship, then she values him disregarding that, and sees staying with him a better option than breaking up and going off with you.
This is a difficult matter because there are too many unknowns regarding her intentions. Your side isn't enough to predict how this will go.0
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