He's really sweet and cares about me. If it feels cold, he always makes me wear his jacket, and when we're walking together, he always makes sure that I walk on the inside. If we go out drinking, he'll make sure that I drink a lot of water, which seems like the opposite of what every guy I dated (i. e. try to get me drunk) and although he's never explicitly told me to stop drinking, you can tell that he approves when I tell him that I can't drink anymore. He's about 5 years older than me, so I always get the feeling that he's super protective of me, he really enjoys teaching me things, or getting me to experience new things. I think he gets some pleasure out of being my superior or something, and I don't mind having so knowledgeable around either. Our relationship is really new only a month or so but some of my friends are saying that he seems unusually protective and that could be bad news down the road (before we dated he definitely wanted to know if other male coworkers of mine had asked me out and so on) So far he hasn't shown a lot of jealousy or anything. Should I be worried?
Most Helpful Guy
That is a bit of a red flag. As long as his behavior doesn't go any further since he is on the line of becoming over protective like if he freaks out whenever you talk to other guys or picks a fight with every dude that looks like you. Guys who act overprotective or controlling are generally doing that out of insecurity. It's the only way they know how to validate themselves as a man. He needs to know you're an adult and not a child and you can take care of yourself. You're a person not his property.0
Most Helpful Girl
God, I wish I had a guy that was like your boyfriend. He's looking out for you, love, and that's what most guys seem to forget these days. I kid you not, it was sunny outside and then unexpectedly, a storm brewed and he literally jumped into his car, saying that he doesn't like the rain and he'll see me later, leaving me all alone and shivering in the heavy rain. I had to call my grandmother to pick me up. Needless to say, our relationship ended right there. A real man/boyfriend would have shielded a girlfriend from the rain and drove her home. So, I am jealous of your relationship because there aren't a lot of men out there, except for man boys and fuck boys.0