Long story short, he's 53 and im 23, we fool around every week or two, and he treats me like a true lady. We get along great and have a lot in common, the problem is, he JUST got divorced in January and is healing from events that caused said divorce. Anyway he's told me before that im dangerous for him meaning (im too easy to fall in love with) and that he really likes me but wants to guard his heart. He even said that sometimes when he says he loves my bod it also means he loves me as a whole. So my question here is, what should i do? Should i say that my feelings are growing more for him? Supress it? Let things play out? Im able to turn off emotions easily too
Falling in love with a divorcie?
What Guys Said 12
question is, are you down for a long term relationship w/ a 53 year old?
he'll be 68 w/ possible age related issues and you'll be in your late 30s. eventually, that means you'll be taking care of him when you're still young.
Then comes analogies. that Gap is so wide that every reference he makes you'll have trouble relating to... or even know whom or what he's referring to. I mean it's easy to get along when y'all are getting to know each other and playing the roles. but eventually, you two are gonna have to enjoy each others long term company, conversation, and thoughts. It can easily turn into someone sounding like your father.
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Let it play out but keep your eyes wide open and just hold your heart back a little to be sure what your seeing and feeling is true. Let's hope it is for both of you.1
He's old enough to be your dad.1
Let things play out.1
he's 53? Dafuq? Are u dating ur grand dad?1
Let it play out for a while, if things are still going really well late this year early next, maybe speak up more, but it's been really soon.0
What Girls Said 8
You do know that yr last sentence is totally a lie, right? Just saying...
reality check time girl.
"he really likes me but wants to guard his heart"
... means that he's NOT giving himself to you, emotionally.
so, I have a question for you.
the question is:
WHAT IS HE GIVING YOU?
That's the question.
I mean... it's possible that he's just giving you the best sex of yr life, sure. If that's true, then, I totally feel ya -- a girl's got needs, and some girls' needs are stronger than others. I mean, I'd come fucking unhinged if I didn't get mines.
It's also possible that he's giving you, well, the more usual thing that older men give younger women (= material benefits).
It's even possible that you have a devilish masochistic streak in you, and he's actually tangibly giving you nothing -- but, yr such a masochist that you actually take great delight in the fact that he's giving you nothing.
If that's yr sexuality, then, it is what it is, and it's important that you identify these things about yrself. Because, then, you'd still be getting SOMETHING, in that way.
But, I mean, you NEED to be getting SOMETHING out of this relationship. Something.
What is he giving you?1
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This is good inspiration for a book!
But to answer the question, I don't see any good coming from this.2
You're being played.
He isn't interested in anything serious, he sees you as fling and rebound. He just wants sex.1
I think he just looking for a shoulder to cry on, someone to listen to him and probably understand him as a friend. He might be in pain and confused, not looking for a serious or long term relationship. Take one step at a time, don't get involve with him too quickly. He might said: oh am sorry it was a big mistake blah blah , didn't know what I was doing (get the idea ). His divorce is too fresh, nothing good is going to come out of that. Save yourself some heartache and keep your distance.1
Turn away. This has got heartbreak all over it!2
He's going to get every emotion and amount of sex out of you until you get clingy and annoying to him and then he's going to ditch you feeling used and sad over him.1
Bad idea for obvious reasons.0