my mother told me there were three questions to ask yourself before you say i love you:
1) would you starve so they could eat? 2) would you kill for them? 3) would you die for them?
i seriously think thats like a mother's love, not just... love lol i heard it's just romantic feelings towards someone too. my parents aren't exactly big on me dating. maybe she was just saying things to make me put it off? i believe there is a difference in being in love and loving someone. i love a bunch of people, but i dont think im in love with anyone. there are people that make me happy when i talk to them, but i dont think thats love...
i guess i have a lotta questions: how do you know when you're in love? is love overrated? when do you say ily? thanks!
i think my question is more: is marriage overrated? my mom has not had good luck with men (until now, thank God) i dont see myself getting married. statistically speaking ill be married at least twice, but i dunno. seems like it isn't worth it...
so as i understand it, you can say i love you when they become your priority. thanks yall!
This is nonsense. If you love a person, tell them! Why is it so easy to say I love ice cream or coffee, but you can't say it to a person you have feelings for? It seems like women have destroyed the meaning of the word and made it into a technical status mark, in which you can't use it until a list of requirements have been fulfilled... If I love her and saying it bothers her because her list shows a few check marks missing, its not a real relationship in my opinion.
I say "I love you" when I feel it. No one else can tell you what your emotions are, and you can never be wrong. Even if the person turns out no to be he one, you can always recover from it. Don't be afraid to shower other people with love, as long as you feel hey deserve your love.
I agree with all of those things, if you say no to any of them then I don't see it as true love. I have more things to add to the list though.
When you literally can't even imagine your life without them, you know it's love. When you care about their feelings much more than your own, it's love. When they break up with you and you feel as though the only way to end the pain is through suicide, it's most certainly love (one sided love though). When the thought of ever being with someone else just doesn't even enter your mind, it's love. When just hearing the sound of their voice can turn even the worst of days into a good day, it's love.
Ummm that's all I can think of at the minute lol but those are definitely some certain signs of being in love.
The first one seems kind-of arbitrary in a predominantly obese country, but as far as the other two... People are threatening to kick in her door for calling the police on their friend who is now facing down 25 to life for a *laundry list* of other prior crimes... and I'm stocking up on guns and ammunition and reinforcing the doors... So that covers #2 & #3, right?
Love isn't overrated, but I think people use it too loosely when it comes to relationships.
Honestly, while your mother's example is extreme, I agree with it. Love is a very strong emotion. Only when you truly know the ins-and-outs of a person, even the bad but accept them anyway, that's love.
wtf, i wouldn't kill anyone for anything, i wouldn't die for anyone and i maybe would starve for my kid if i had one. i think love is a fake concept because it's not only one thing, it's affection combined with trust and respect.
When I put them before me. When I serve food, I serve them before I serve myself. When I'm being considerate and thoughtful for them. No I don't think love is overrated at all. I say it when I mean it. Spontaneously
Oh, this is a serious + tricky question! I personally believe love is something we all define differently, and experience differently to some extent. But if it's someone you trust and feel like you can share your thoughts with, and they genuinely make you happy etc i think is one type of love. When you really look forward to seeing someone, and you want to be able to make them happy etc it's also love. There is also uh, 'stronger' types of love, like when you can't imagine a future without said person and so on. But just because you don't experience all things your mom listed doesn't mean you don't love someone? And yes i think there's a different between 'motherly' love and romantic love. But i also believe that platonic/'friend' love can be as strong and real as romantic ones. I'm not sure I'm making sense here but haha, this is a very interesting subject anyway