Just tell your mother:- If you give them one room full of Notes/Money and there is no one except her in this planet ; ask her what she will do with that money or what she will do ;since Money can't talk with you, money can't help you in real trouble, money can't listen to your feelings etc.
But one the other hand If you have a boyfriend or a guy except the money full room, he may help you in trouble, he will listens to your feelings, he will give you real satisfaction since you are a better half of him etc. He can have a job to earn a living and will live with you forever till death. And of course money can be earn and finally money is non-living thing;in simple a paper only. By the way I hope you got some idea, be happy and respect your mother and have a good conversation with her and make her understand your feeling.
As for yr mother -- well... if she's ever old and poor, then, I guess you can rake her over the coals for not being a good enough whore to find a rich man to provide for her. LOL Then you can decide whether it's worth it to bail her out, under those circumstances. Yr call.
For now, you are mah honorary little sister. Go get yours, babe.
i think it's important to tell your mom that money doesn't make the man. you like him for who he is and most guys (people) are not flush with cash in college... i know i was by all means essentially poor in college.
but ultimately you just need to ignore your mom. if he's a good guy and you like him that's all that matters.
You said in the comments that he's very responsible with money, and really that's all you can ask him to be.
If he doesn't like him for being poor, then she's the one who's the problem. That kind of materialistic dickbaggery is something I have no respect for.
If you want to get her to change her mind or mind her own business then cut her off. Tell her you're going to be with him because you love him (which is the only reason one needs to be with a person, not their wealth), and that if she cannot accept him because he's not rich enough, you'd rather surround yourself with people who aren't superficial.
If she doesn't comes around, you'll know that you were right in what you said and you will know that she still doesn't accept him or respect you or your choices. However if she comes around which she most likely will, it's basically an admission of you being right and her being in the wrong.
well, you will never be able to escape your moms looking out for what she believes is your best interests. I would be concerned if she didn't, even though her methods might be a little crude her intentions might be sound. Remember that everyone has an opinion and those are usually based on what they think is correct and how they perceive the world to be, that's okay in reality how does this really affect you? It does if you allow it to otherwise you can respect their right to have a voice and do what it is you are comfortable doing... Good luck !
You can't do anything about it, parents have a mind set that children are their private property, and they have inbuilt copy right To show their supremacy over them, whether they (parents ) are right or wrong.
She is being a realist. In 15 years you will realize how right she is.
If your boyfriend isn't financially secure now, what is his plan? Is he in medical school? Is he interning with a hedge fund? Is he at MIT finishing his PhD in electrical engineering?
Too many young couples ignore the reality of finance, thinking it isn't important. Then, years after they get married it starts to sink in just how important money is to being happy. The number one cause of divorce is over money.
Your mother is looking out for you. If your boyfriend doesn't have a credible plan for making it, then find someone else.
Wow true definition of a golder digger combine with controlling. Juz remember money can't buy u real LUV. soon he will be working anywayz but if he's a slackerz, than thats when u really gotta start thinken twice
If I was in your situation I would just be upfront with her. I'd say something like, "X is working very hard at school. He's been accepted to university and has a very promising future. I find it really frustrating that you're comparing him to X because they're not the same person. Please respect my decision that I want to be with him." I think with parents is that they want their child to be with someone who can provide for them, watch their back, and sometimes that can mean financially. Good luck!
No one has a lot of money while they're studying unless they have super rich parents and they behave like Prince or princess... sorry but your mom is being quite stupid for doing this to you and your boyfriend.. tell her he's still a student and she's being dumb..
Argh sounds like something my mum would say. But she has realised that seeing me happy is more important. BELIEVE it or not but she is just looking out for you. She may be traditional, where men back in the day looked after the woman who mothers his kids. She just wants to make sure that he can financially support you. I know because my mum is like that. And I had the same mindset as you? Till I understood what she meant. She isn't just approaching it with you the right way.
You can tell her that you appreciate her concern, but that you aren't dating him for what is or isn't in his bank account. Also tell her that most college students are poor and that she should stop comparing your boyfriend to your sister's boyfriend because they are in 2 different stages of their lives.
Wow!! He is very young, she needs to cut him some slack! Who has money in college? No one! Its another thing if he is in his thirties and still broke as a joke, but early twenties! Just ignore her, nothing worth fighting over, so ignore it.
He is your boyfriend not your mother's. You should make a choice. There are many poor guys who can make you rich with their love. I think that if you are happy then you are rich. If he can make you happy no matter he is poor or rich. P. S Many successful men were poor in past but they managed to get rich because of their will and encouragement of their life partners. So follow your dreams and listen to your heart.
Ah mothers... sounds like she's going to make a grade A mother in law. I've learned with parents and love that you ignore them as much as possible. Don't let fight crop up though. Just say " mmm hmmm. Okay. Whatever mom"
just tell her to fuck off and mind her own business.
I've learned that with mothers they stop being ignorant once you put your foot down in a non confrontational manner that says your a adult. Explain to her what you will be doing and that you are dating and therefore knoe more about him then she'll ever know. Also, he might be poor now like I was 2yrs ago at uni. But my girlfriend supported me which I believe paid off because I earn a lot now. One last thing even if he were rich just remember she would have another problem with him.
dump him or tell your boyfriend to search a job who paid good
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