I am a very shy and nervous person when it comes to dates. What should I do? And please don't tell me: "be yourself", because you don't understant how hard that is when you are shy/nervous etc. It's practically impossible.
LOL I was in your shoes yesterday! I know how you feel! When I was about to get into that bar, I had to wait outside at first for like 5 mins, to gather my thoughts. I was nervous as fuck. But the moment I got in and saw him sitting across the table smiling at me, I felt better! No, not better, I felt amazing!!! He was very talk-active so he made it easier for me to relax and just enjoy the freaking date! Well we kissed and I'm having a second date with him on Friday, yeaaaaah! :PPP
you are too much in your head as the other guy said. you are the female equivalent of these poor losers that can't get laid. just enjoy the moment for a while geez people. i recommend reading the power of now. a bit of mumbo jumbo but good book overall. will give you a good mindset.
Act how you would act around friends and try to get to know the other person. Keep talking and listening balanced, ask questions and try to remember important stuff about him and his life. If you forget everything right away you'll seem uninterested. It's also good to give a genuine compliment, like "I like your [insert clothing piece]" or "your hobby is (...)? That's so cool!". Make sure you're honest, no need to lie. And don't say anything creepy of course.
If you feel like you're getting too nervous to function normally, just tell him you're a bit nervous about the date. He'll probably find it cute and try to comfort you.
In the end you're just going to do some activity with another person to get to know each other better. It's not a big deal, try to see it as just a fun way to spend your evening and to practise your communication skills.
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