I just don't understand. Everyone is always like "you've just got to wait for the right one," "you've got plenty of time," blah, blah, blah. On the outside, I act like I like being single (and I do to some degree), but I'm so tired of being alone and only attracting men that a) never try to take me out and actually date/get to know me or b) are just plain psycho.
I'm independent. Have my own place. Graduated college. I've got a lot going for me at 23, but it seems it means nothing. My friend that's 32 and lived at home until a month ago (moved in with me) has already found a guy and been dating him for a few weeks. Her coworker set her up.
My coworker set me up this past December and the guy would only text and Snap and never ask me out. He said we would go out "after the holidays died down." He never made plans, but would message me me, so I deleted him. Just like the guy who I was talking to recently... he wanted to text HUGE messages instead of making solid plans to meet/get to know me. We both already had plans the first two weekends after he said we should go out, so I thought he'd ask me about the weekend after that. So, after waiting for him to make plans and it becoming apparent that he wasn't going to, I quit replying. He text me "Happy Easter" a few days later and once I replied out of kindness, he ignored me and hasn't text me since.
Just SICK of the childish bull crap. My roommate had to mention going out to the guy she's dating. He didn't ask her out, essentially. I just don't like that and don't think a woman should have to initiate a first date. I guess I will be alone forever. :/
Most Helpful Guy
You can thank feminism.
We were told that a woman needed a man in the way that a fish needed a bicycle.
We were told that all sex was rape, so all men were rapists.
We lost university places, jobs and promotions to women who were less competent, but a quota had to be filled.
We were fired for sexually harassing a coworker, because we asked her on a date.
Men have seen lives ruined by false rape allegations, because a woman changed her mind the next day, or week, or month, or year.
We have seen friends, relatives and colleagues destroyed by divorce courts and turned into impoverished slaves for life via child-support orders.
All that and more... and you wonder why an increasing number of men stay away. I suggest that you go to YouTube and search for Sexodus.3
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Most Helpful Girl
Girl, YOU can initiate too. You can't just sit around and expect for prince charming to waltz in and save the day. YOU need to make the plans.
I know how frustrating it can be, trust me. I've been there. BUT you shouldn't complain if you aren't making any kind of effort. He doesn't have to be the one to ask you out. If you seriously think that women shouldn't initiate, you need to get with the times. That's not how things work these days and THAT IS OK. There are plenty of guys that would like being asked out by a girl.
You will not be forever alone if you make an effort. You will be if you keep on deleting guys on social networks and complaining about it.
Sorry for the "tough love" response, but that's just how it is.3