Let me be clear as to why this annoys/worries me. Him and his ex broke up TWO YEARS ago, after he found out that she had been cheating on him for half of the time that they dated (one year). It broke his heart. He got depressed bad enough to try and take his own life.
Now I understand what that's like, two years ago I broke up with my ex for the same reason, and was so depressed I made an attempt on my life.
Two years later and here we are, now dating each other. He says he hates her because she broke his heart, and that he loves me unconditionally, that without me there would be nothing.
But im worried that he's still stuck on her for some reason. I feel like he's comparing me to her. Like one night I told him I would love him for forever and nothing would ever change that. He laughed and said that "he'd heard that one before". As in that's what she used to tell him.
A little while ago there was some b*tch sending his messages and pictures and at first he thought it was me trying to get him to cheat (until he read the messages that dumba*ss send me) and said "it was the same thing his ex had done to him."
I have promised him many many times that I will never do to him what she did. He's all I have. He says the same to me about my ex.
So why, are there still pictures of her? I mean, they're on Facebook but they're of him and her kissing and being all lovey dicey. There are no pictures of him and I. He doesn't want pictures of him and I on Facebook.
Why? Is it because that was him and hers thing? I obviously want to confront him with all of this but I wanna know if I'm overreacting, or if there really is something for me to worry about.
There has got to be something about her that he misses (other then her big a** tits).
I just don't know what else to do. It breaks my heart and I can't sleep. My stomach is in knots just thinking a
Is he still in love with her and misses her even with all that she's done?
Can he love me as much as he says if he's keeping reminders of her around?
Why would he STILL have couple pictures of them, but refuse to have ones with me?
I just don't understand. I won't be her. Is that what he wants from me?
What do I do?
It scares me that he might still miss her.
Most Helpful Guy
I can understand your concerns and you can confront him, but after reading your post, I have noticed that he still hasn't recovered from the past, he still doesn't have the same trust as he has before and that's why when you tell him that you won't do what his ex did, he has a hard time believing that. He has been hurt before, so it's natural.
However your concerns are justified, even I don't understand why he would still have her pics, that is indeed inappropriate.1
Most Helpful Girl
What's more worrisome than the pictures is the fact that he clearly doesn't trust you, and that he somehow manages to bring her up in the most random conversations. Especially intimate conversations. That's just wrong.
I have a theory. As long as you hate someone and hold a grudge for someone who did something to you in the past, you're not over it. He has said that he hates her and he seems to be making spiteful comments about her when he gets the chance. So no, he's not over it. One bit. I'd also argue that he's not even ready for a new and serious relationship yet because of that. Someone who's over it wouldn't care. They wouldn't think about it anymore or try to incorporate the past into their present conversations in such a negative manner. That's more scary than the dumb facebook photos in my opinion. I couldn't be with someone like that, someone who clearly lacks the trust to really be able to "love unconditionally" like they claim.1