I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years we are both 23 and still in love of course just like any couple we get into fights. I am his third love. Howerver few weeks ago our argument was different he slapped me in the face and QUICKLY REGRETTED it. In this three years I've been with him he has never hit me or yelled at me. We never got into an argument like this. I am currently on break with him and he keeps convincing me that he is not the abusive type and that it "just happened" I've even private messaged his ex girlfriends and they all claimed he was never the abusive type nor did he ever lay a violent hand on them. His exes did not feel threatned by him and they broke up for a good reason. What happened was I was driving and I was just zoned out i drove through a stop sign and luckily the car who has the right of way stopped in time, otherwise we would have crashed badly. So I pulled over and we were both shaken and cause of that he slapped me in the face. I know i made a mistake while driving but i still question did he hit me because of fear and that he was just panicked (thats what he keeps trying to tell me and he's very apolegetic) or is it an early sign of a potential abuse? Keep in mind that all his exes have never been abused by him and I've been with him for three years and this is the first time. In your guy's opinion was it just a small mishap? or is this something to keep an eye on? PS were still on break. At the same time i dont want to be that girl that keeps making excuses but I also dont want to throw away 3 years and plus, he has no history of violence or abuse and he only did this once to me... Any helpful advice will do thank you!
Most Helpful Guy
Since this history is not abusive, I'd go back to him, now! You nearly got both of you seriously injured or killed. Maybe you had a good smack coming. I don't hit women, ever, unless the like it, but I'd sure want to make sure you snapped out of whatever almost got us killed. I'm not defending him. I'm just saying that extreme situations can evoke odd behavior.0
Most Helpful Girl
I would immediately lose interest and all my respect in him. I would break up. It's just too risky. You don't just lose control. He could've hit something else, not you. This is a sign that he has that in him and chances are high that it might happen again. I'm sorry, honey. :(3