Feeling a bit hurt tonight, guys! Would love your help and/or advice. My boyfriend and I have been together over 1.5 years now. We used to basically live together, but I felt like he was starting to take me for granted, so I decided that maybe he should start staying at his place through the week and we can stay together on the weekends. I mentioned to him though that we can still get together and do things during the week... dinner or something just to see each other. Anyway, it's been a few weeks of this now and I reached out to him the first week to have dinner with me. He declined, saying he was too tired. But, he ended up going to a friends house for dinner, which was about 10 minutes from me. I confronted him because I was hurt... he said that he was just too tired to go out to a restaurant. Plus, his roommate drove them. After telling him how I felt, I let it go. But, since then I have not once attempted to make a point to see him after my utter rejection. More importantly, he has not once reached out to me to see me during the week. I mean, I can sort of understand as we live about 20 minutes away and he works really long hours. However, tonight stung. He calls me and tells me he just got back from dinner. Normally, he and his roommate go to dinner and that's no big deal, but tonight it was a friend's birthday dinner. He didn't call or text me to see if I wanted to meet up with them. The dinner was like 5 minutes from my house. Every guy who has a girlfriend had her by his side (I asked him who all was there). I expressed that this hurt and he said that it crossed his mind to ask, but "it was late and I didn't think you'd want to be out that late since you have to work tomorrow". Let me just say that they went to dinner around 8pm. He apologized and said he would ask me next time. But, what the frick? We don't see each
We don't see each other during the week, so I don't know how to take any of this. He claims he misses me during the week, makes no effort to see me though. Please help! What do I do and how should I take this?
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You say that you felt he was taking you for granted before. It doesn't seem to have changed. One must make allowances for long hours but he clearly is ignoring the opportunities he has to see you. Perhaps you need to assess how much togetherness you feel you need versus how independent he seems to want to keep this. Or is this behavior new for him?0