My boyfriend and I have been dating for a few months now, and he hadn't made a good first-impression with my family as he didn't introduce himself at all, and he didn't even greet my mum when she came to pick me up. He also didn't introduce me to his friends when he took me to their birthday meal. His mother had to ask him to introduce me to his brothers.
My mom and grandma told me to think carefully about him, because they didn't like his attitude. I spoke to him about this yesterday, because I wanted my family to reconsider him. I understand why he's so reluctant to speak up, because he's shy and I know it's kinda hard for him to participate in social situations - I get that. However, greeting someone, especially your girlfriend's family is really just common courtesy. He says he knows it's common courtesy, but he doesn't want to change. He just says its easier for him if he just stays the way he is.
I'm not sure what to make of this because this relationship not likely to work if my family doesn't like him, but as cliche and as cheesy as this sounds, i don't want to lose him. It's not even a major thing - all he needs to do is just say hi every time he and my family meet and just make a little effort.
What should I do? As a couple, this is our first argument ever. Oh, this is also our first time being in a relationship. We are both 17.
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Tell him calmly that him having a good relationship with your parents is really important to you and that sometimes he has to make sacrifices. Remind him that greeting your parents is nothing more than common courtesy and it shouldn't be a big deal to him.0