So im on a dating app and if it wasn't for me reading and hearing about people actually meeting boyfriends/girlfriends on it, I would have deleted my account a long time ago. I have been on the app for about 6 months now (after last deactivating my account) and I got one date, who I only went on because I was very lonely, and on the date found out he was a total idiot.
I talked to several guys, some for even 2 weeks, but I Just can't get a date. The few guys who actually do ask me out never go throught with it.
I have tried being passive and active in Our conversation. Its har not to think its something im doing wrong, especially when I Just learned that my sisters roommate is going to meet a guy from tinder tomorrow and they dont even live in the same city.
I dont take Those apps too seriously, but it shouldn't be so hard to just get one date? What am I doing wrong?
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I'm really sorry this is happening to you! I am having a very similar experience. After 4 months on Plenty of Fish I decided to try another site. I have had good luck on POF before, but this time around it's just not working out.
Like you, I've talked to many guys. I initiated many conversations, I act interested or passive (tried both), and either way I was getting nowhere. I'd talk to a guy, he'd seem excited initially and then after a week or so of conversation, he'd drift off and I would never hear from him again.
There are several reasons why this is happening. Perhaps they just got out of a relationship, and things are still iffy as to whether they will get back together or not. They met someone they like more, or they met someone before you and things are getting more serious. Perhaps they aren't all that serious about dating in the first place. Maybe they are still reeling from a past heartache.
Ultimately you just have to keep trying. In the 4 months I was on POF I only managed to get 2 dates. 2 dates! That's not a whole lot. And I had so many guys ask me out, only to flake when the time came.
I feel this is a symptom of the modern times. No one wants to commit to anything anymore (not even a coffee date) because something far better could be just around the corner! It makes me really sad. And I hope for both of our sakes that we start having better luck.
I've been told I'm a wonderful person, and guys have told me they have no idea why I am having such a hard time. I feel like you are probably in the same boat. Nice person, great qualities, but just not having any luck.
Have you tried any other sites? I just started an account on Ok Cupid and it seems to be getting more action (though I'm a new member, so that's maybe why?).
Either way I hope our luck starts to change!0