Okay, so I've gone on a couple dates with this guy. My gut feeling is always "oh shit, this is it. He's it." My brain on the other hand is "slow down, you don't really know him. Stop jumping to conclusions." Now I know my brain is right, but how right can gut feelings be?
Most Helpful Guy
Your brain is in your head, you can't think with anything but that.
If you do, you'll just end up being wrong a bunch of times where you could have prevented this unnecessary shortcoming.
Gut feelings are really just what your instincts tell you to do, which in many cases are illogical and impractical, but despite that, I'd still advise you listen to your gut.
Although they impact reasoning, the gut feelings still tell you who you like and doesn't give a fuck about the why. The gut feelings are who you are at the deepest instinctual level, so even though you will end up making some mistakes, getting with the wrong person and embarrasing yourself, you should try to listen to your gut.
Only by being wrong, can you learn how to be right or how to get it right. You don't learn anything from benig right all the time, and... I only use my brain, I ignore my gut and where has that path led me? I'm a fucking bore.
Use your gut, be wrong, learn from that, and don't let yourself block you from experiences that might make you grow as a person.1
Most Helpful Girl
In this case, your gut feeling is wrong. You see him as this perfect guy because you haven't seen his negative side yet. And everyone has a negative side, no exceptions. The thing that makes some people compatible is whether they can handle each other's negative side. Allow yourself to have fun with him and enjoy your time with him, but don't sacrifice too much of your free time to be with him.0