This guy i liked chose another girl over me... this girl studies at uni and i have a lower education, community college and he chose her because he is a doctor and guess he wanted someone from the same backround. He said she was better then me, and even tho she is uglier he prefers to be with her. I felt so betrayed and low at that moment, he said i wasn't goal oriented which are lies, he just judged me, now i feel ugly worthless and a complete idiot for even trying to make him like me. Am i really that bad of a person? am i really ugly?
This is me
Most Helpful Guy
Okay you have to realize one thing: his opinions about you aren't universal or objective. Those are his subjective opinions about you. Anybody else could have different ones. I learned in the past few years that if I get rejected it isn't because I'm worthless or a shitty human being because I'm clearly not. It only means that guy is looking for something different. It doesn't mean that you're not good enough it just means you're different from what he's chasing after. There are probably many guys out there who look at you and after having a conversation with you realize that you're awesome.
I get it rejection hurts. I've been rejected. I know what it's like. It's hard not to take it to heart. You're just incompatible. There are loads of people I'm incompatible with so I get it.
You're not ugly.1
Most Helpful Girl
All I can say is, you shouldn't base your self-worth on what other people think of you. You should base it on how you think of yourself. If you know that you're goal-oriented, why does it matter what he thinks? Clearly he doesn't know you well enough then, right? Why do you even care about someone who would go out of his way to put you down like that?
Rise above him, don't sink down to his level. Calling the girl he went for ugly won't help you with your self-esteem. It'll only make YOU feel ugly on the inside. Instead of wasting time on people who don't care about you, focus on the ones who do. And quit seeking validation from others.1