So, there's this guy at my job that I thought would be a good friend. We started hanging out and can talk about pretty much anything. He's extremely kind hearted and easy to chill with.. he even tried to buy me an expensive ticket to see a concert (I insisted on paying him back). I thought we were friends, but at the concert he asked to hold my hand and I shook my head and held it to my chest. I thought he would get the hint but now he's asking me to do things that are in no way "friend-like" (wine and cheese picnic, for example).
If he were more my type, I'd probably date him.. but he's pretty much the opposite of what I'm physically attracted to and (I know this is fucked up) but I just can't imagine having sex with him, a necessary part of any relationship.
Am I being too shallow? Should I give him a chance?
Most Helpful Guy
No. You can't date someone you're not physically attracted to. That doesn't make you shallow, it is what it is. Everyone does that.
I tried dating a girl I thought was... ugly... once cause she was kind and all that, but I couldn't make it past the 3 weeks.
I felt bad for giving her hope of being with someone she really liked, but I didn't feel the same way.
Don't give him a chance, don't give him any hopes when you know nothing is gonna happen. Just let him go.1
Most Helpful Girl
You can't help who you're attracted to. He sounds like a good guy but ultimately if you're not attracted to him romantically, there's not much you can do. Nor should you feel guilty for it since it's out of your control.
When he asks you out like that, you can accept if you want. But say something along the lines of "but just as a friend, I hope you're not hoping for something more than that". It might make things a bit awkward but that's better than having him become bitter because he might end up feeling like you've lead him on.0