I was wondering how often dating another race still has problems like this in our soceity. If it hasn't brought up any issues at all I would also like to hear about that as well. Have any of you had your family or friends try to shame you for it, or been treated poorly by their family. I have even heard about Asian girls being beaten up in the restroom by white women for trying to steal their men in certain clubs. I doubt that is common, but racism does exist so I suppose it is likely to happen at least some of the time.
If you are from a country other than the united states I would appreciate you saying which country it is, so it gives me better perspective on what each area is like.
Most Helpful Girl
I've dated black guys all my life so I've seen it all actually. It doesn't help that I'm of Swedish ancestry so I'm very fair. The worse, by far, situation I've been in was a police stop in Memphis where my black boyfriend was handcuffed and searched then detained in the back of a cop car while I was questioned as to whether I was with him of my own volition. He had not committed an offense nor had he been drinking. I felt helpless for him. They let him/us go after 20 minutes of hell. Two days later, the same exact cop pulled me over, I'd had a few glasses of wine, he flirted with me and asked me out on a date. Then followed me home to make sure I made it home safe.3
Most Helpful Guy
I'm from Britain and I date an Irish girl. I have been treated as a son by her family and get on well with all of them, been on holidays and spent Christmas with them a couple of times. I can roll with their banter as well as any lad from Donegal.
My family treat her much the same way, in fact my younger cousins think she is an actual fairytale princess. Relatives in Asia however, treat her with contempt, they have stereotypes of white women that they can't get over. Same thing with family friends over here who love to gossip and natter about how xxxxxx's son is courting a white woman, how she's going to take my money, cheat on me while I'm at work, have a career instead of being a housewife all the usual bullshit.
Now, when I've dated my own race... I'm almost always not 'Asian' enough for her family. I respect elders but i don't subscribe to the whole worshipping thing they expect. It usually leads to problems.1