We've gone out twice. Long dates though. Six and ten hours, accidentally. Second one we ended up cuddled on the couch watching Netflix, and there was a goodnight kiss. After both of our dates he's said that he thinks I'm pretty amazing, really fantastic, that he likes me (he told me that in person, too), and that he thinks we make a great pair. But as far as regular conversation via text... There isn't much of it. I hear from him pretty sporadically. He just got a promotion at work, so he's pretty busy being trained/training people, and he's preparing for a two month work trip as well. I keep reminding myself that not everyone is a big texter, even if they like someone... I'm not lying to myself, right? I'm a big texter in general, but not everyone is.
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He probably is busy, combined with being a terrible texter or messenger with said app.
For example, I am absolutely awful with responding to messages on Tinder, so I ask the gal for another means of contact (phone number, kik, snapchat, facebook to use the messenger, etc.) so I can contact her more easily.0
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It's definitely possible that he is just busy at work. I often don't text people at work either because I have so much to get done.
However, when he's done work, is he not free to text you? Now some people are big texters, while other's are not. If this guy isn't big on texting, and he plans to take a 2 month business trip, how are you going to handle that?
If you feel he is too unavailable right now, how are things going to change going forward?
He may think you're great, but if you both have different communication needs, it might cause issues in a relationship.
I would definitely talk to him about your concerns. It's okay to not expect him to text you all the time. But if he goes away a lot and isn't big into texting and keeping touch it can feel very isolating and frustrating. Especially if you are always the one reaching out to him.0