I will keep this as brief as possible. In the past I have dated men who lied about their age online. I've learned from those lessons, or I thought I have. 6 months ago I met a guy I like a lot, we have been dating and exclusive for a while. On my online dating profile, I stated how I don't have tolerance for guys who lie about their age, it was clear and at that time, I jokingly, stated that I'm not looking to date a 50 year old. I'm 36 years old.
The guy's profile said he was 47 years old. I did not directly ask him to confirm his age when we met, but I did share my experiences related to men who lied about their age in the past. So he knows how I feel. Fast forward to this week - since I was considering having him meet my son for the first time, I decided to run a simple background check just to make sure (& I'm not asking for advice as to when to introduce my son to a guy). He is supposed to be 47, turning 48 this year, but it turns out he is 49, turning 50. Why would he do this? I know many of you will say that he only lied by reducing 2 years... but it's still being dishonest.
I really like this man, but starting to wonder what else is he lying about. I have 2 questions. My worry is not that he is 50, he really looks physically good, I can be with him. My worry is whether he is lying about anything else.
First- guys why do you feel the need to lie in your profiles? This baffles me.
second- how should I handle a conversation with him regarding this? Should I even consider continuing with him? As I mentioned I have lots of positive feelings for him, but I don't want to make the wrong choices.
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Hey its not a big deal... ur trying to make an issue out of nothing...
If ur so much bothered about it.. just ask him straight... ask him in a joking manner...
just say "i dont think its gonna work out".. then he will say "why?"
and then u say "i was looking to date a guy who was 47 but ur 49..."
do it all with smiles... and then he might tell u the real reason...
dont try to sabotage ur relation for this fuckin small thing1