I've friend zoned two guys in two weeks, both amazing men and both good friends of mine. I love them as friends, but nothing more. I just am at a place now where I can't give 100% to a relationship and I don't want to hurt anyone. I don't want to give 50% when someone gives 100% to me. It's not fair and it's wrong. Until I'm at a place where I feel like I can give all of myself to someone; I don't want to date. After I rejected them, I felt miserable and have cried about it. I even prayed, but I still feel bad for hurting their feelings; even though I was honest with them and myself. What should I do to feel better about everything?
Well it's really nice that you want to give a guy that you'll date the most love that you can offer. A lot of people just use others for their own pleasure which is wrong. It sucks but I think you're doing the right thing.
Tell them you're simply not in a place where you are ready to date and commit right now. you like them, you want them in your life, you aren't opposed to something romantic maybe happening. you just aren't ready for it right now.
friendzoning is leading a guy on with the dangling carrot that MAYBE you could see him as something more, while benefiting from his attention and devotion to you. That isn't what you did.
In such situations it's best to let them know that it's not them you are turning down! ... It's cause your life is a mess.. Although to guys we don't expect a 100% efforts from you love.. If you can spare time for sex once in 3 days it's 100% for us