Ok there is this guy I really like it's been like 7 months now. I stay in South africa he is white and I am black I am only mentioning thia because race is currently a big deal in South africa. People are hating on each other due to race. Ok so the bottom line is I thought I'd be over my crush on him by now but it keeps getting worse. I see him regularly sometimes everyday of the week sometimes once a week. So my question is, if a girl was to ask you out how would you prefer her to do it in a way that will not seem too strong and desperate. I am soo scared of rejection so the most simplest way you can advice with. I don't have hia numbers just his email address and I'm kind of scared leaving a trail he can use to make me a laughing stock should he not be interested in me.
Ok so how exactly can I do it that won't make him feel like less of a man. All I have is his email address and I don't think I have the guts to ask him in person. Any help would be appreciated
I'm not super up to date on the culture over there so take this with a grain of salt. I don't care if a girl asks me out or if I'm asking them out. What matters is if I want to date that person. If things didn't work out, would you mind? Who cares about some jerk that's more worried about gender roles than you as a human being?
That's complete rubbish that asking a guy out will make him feel like 'less of a man'. If that's true for that guy in particular, he must've not been much of a 'man' in the first place, if he defined his masculinity by your essentially being subservient to him.
I asked my boyfriend out and he had zero issue with it. I told him that I wanted to talk to him about something, asked him to join me for coffee, Once there, I told him that I liked him and asked what he'd think about being in a relationship with me. Two years later and we're still going strong.
Trust me, just do it. You don't have much to lose by taking a risk. A risk that, if you don't take it, you'll definitely lose on.
It depends on the guy. There is no way to tell how he will react.
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