Why do people want to Be in a relationship, when there are so many different interesting people out there? Why tie yourself down when their are Plenty of oppertunities? I just don't get it, I don't understand why one would want an exclusive relationship, especially when you're still young. So what gives?
I suppose to each their own - Some want to be single, some want an open relationship and some want a monogamous relationship - I reckon just follow your heart but if you are in relationship tell the other person what you are thinking and why you are thinking it. For me I would think differently as in I feel there is nothing better than meeting right person and settling down but that is just my personal bias.
I'm poly/non-monogamous myself, but when you get to be my age, you'll start to realize that you'll want or even need someone to come home to. I was lucky in finding a man who was open to letting me be myself. So long as he is the one I come home, and I am always safe and clean, he is ok with me having some fun on the side.
But young as you are, don't tie yourself down. Go see the world while you still can, while there is still beauty left in it.
Because later in life you'll want more, some one who is more then just an object to have sex with, have a family etc and just because your young now doesn't mean you always will be but your actions now will absolutely impact you in the future. It has a particularly large impact on women. So yeah, just because something is enjoyable doesn't mean its good for you or that it always will be enjoyable.
Stability, trust, getting to know someone can be fun and actually healthy I think. If you bounce around from person to person, you end up being very shallow, and you only know the surface of somebody. Like when you get into a group project and you knkw he shitty students in your group and the ones you can rely on and delegate the work among.
Plus do you want to go on a trip with someone who you only knkw a little bit? Not me.
It's pretty simple, actually: kids. In order for the species to ensure a new generation of healthy, stable offspring, it needs monogamous (or polygamous, but never polyandrous) couples to raise children. Neither singles mom not single dads can usually do that job effectively alone, as ample research has shown. Jumping around from mate-to-mate jeopardizes the species if enough people do it, thus most people don't do it.
Because when you meet that special person you don't want to be with anyone else. They suddenly become everything you want and need and therefore there is no room for anyone else or other opportunities. Of course it isn't like that for everyone which is why there are plenty of people who prefer not having a relationship and that is great too, because you should always do what makes you happy.
Why fuck around and never settle down even though you've already found someone you wanna be with and love?
Look at @redeyemindtricks she's with a man she absolutely loves, and he in return, they're relationship is practically perfect. If she fucked around with guys like a whore all her life, even after finding him, then she wouldn't have 3 kids she loves more than her entire being, she wouldn't be where she is now and she wouldn't be happy. But she's just one example.
I can see why you'd wanna "play the field" but I can also see why you'd wanna settle down.
Being in a relationship is a completely different experience than being with several different people so you'd have to find out for yourself. For me, I love being in a relationship with ONE person only, but different people like different things I guess.
I don't care about different, interesting people or "plenty of opportunities." I've met my best friend and I know that I want to be with him. I've connected with him more than I have with anyone else. There's no way you can have a deep connection with people when you spread yourself so thinly amongst many; if you focus your time on one person, the ability to form a beautifully deep connection is incredible.
Because when I love someone, I love them a lot. And all my energy and time is towards them. So I can't jump from guy to guy. Also it takes me a lot to be able to open my heart to a man and have feelings for him. I'm too emotional and attached to be able to sleep around with no strings attached. I can't even get sexually attracted to someone I'm not deeply attached to.
I personally would rather spend my entire life with 1 person & create countless memories with them. So then we can get old together & talk about all those good times. Look back on photos from when we were however young. It's just a lovely thought to share my life with that same person than to play the field & possibly end up an old spinster with nothing but a hundred cats around me.
I don't know... You just get hung up on them when you fall in love. Eventually you can't see yourself with anyone else. Ever. Unfortunately by the time you realize this. The relationship may have already slipped through you fingers.😔
Sex with random people just doesn't appeal to me. I think it would be super awkward to fuck someone I don't know well. Sex tend to get better over time. I feel like if I have sex with someone I'm investing in them and I want more than just sex in return. I don't mean financially but emotionally. Sex for sex is hardly a straight swap for hetero women. We are taking more risk and it's harder for us to get pleasure. Love and commitment appeals to me much more,
I recently had a discussion with my friends in regards to this topic. My friends were wondering about that as well. However, when you're in a relationship, the other person automatically becomes better than the rest because you fell for them and you chose them to be with you. It's... different. You don't feel like you need anybody else. You do not compare because nobody and nothing compares to them. In your mind, you don't want other opportunities, you're more than content with the person you have. At least, that's what happens to me when I am in love.
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