Went on two dates with a guy. First date was great. On the second date, we got coffee and our conversation made me really uncomfortable. She said some aggressive, potentially violent, things about women. For examle, he told me several stories about exes and each one, according to him, was a "bitch," "slut," "whore," etc. I could also tell he has some anger management issues because he got really worked up during these and other parts of our conversation.
He's texted me once inviting me over to his place. I ignored that one. Now, he's texted me two weeks in a row asking if I'm free the next weekend. To be blunt, he scares and I don't want to see him again. What is the best (and safest, because he knows where I work) way to turn him down? Should I keep ignoring him? Text him to tell him I don't think we're compatiable? Make up that I've realized I'm too busy with work and don't have time for a relationship?
Just tell him, that this doesn't seem to be going the way that you want, and wish him the best of luck. To ignore him is sending a message of playing hard to get, honest communication is probably best here.
yes tell him. tell this in a crouded place or via text. if he threatens you, tell him that you'll go to the police. if you have brothers or cousin bros, they will help you in this situation. take care of yourself after this for sometime. always keep a relative or friend with you while you go out. change your phone number if needed. it's only 2 dates. I doubt if he'd take this personally.
Word for word. Im just not confortable in this relationship right now, maybe we can continue as friends and see how it work out in the distant future. Treat him like and applicant that didn't get the job