the reason why I'm asking is because the dating world seems to force people to beat around bush... So bluntness/honesty is an instant fail.
Everyone seems to to be playing games and it's really frustrating... incredibly annoying actually. Also why are guys always being called out on this when every girl I've tried to date/been with played games the whole time.
I'm sort of sick this shit and really losing faith in the concept of relationship (more so because I've been deceived by girls I though were trustworthy)... I feel like I should just make myself as appealing as possible and if that means changing/pretending to be someone else than so be it...
But if I some how became miraculously more appealing to a larger number of women then why should I ever stay with one person when it's most likely doomed based on past experiences & current feelings?
- Yes, you do sadly5%(1)9%(3)Vote14%(2)
- No, be yourself62%(13)57%(20)Vote50%(7)
- It depends... there's things that you should share (your strengths) and things that can wait until later (or not at all because they might not actually be important).33%(7)34%(12)Vote36%(5)
Most Helpful Girl
It's very important to be yiurself. Believe it or not, no 2 women really want the exact same qualities, and if yo uh pretend to be someone you aren't, your true colors will eventually show/you can't be someone you aren't forever. If you outright lie and it comes out you will lose her trust also.
That said, don't rush in with the list of everything that is "bad" about you! There is nothing quite like a first date with a guy who gives you this long list of everything he feels insecure about or the biggest things that scare women away! I understand why men do this (or any person really). Who eats to invest all the time and effort into dating if there is a deal breaker you are hiding? But the thing is, when we are getting to know you, we don't know the positives that counteract those flaws.
If you become someone you aren't though then you may blow it with the woman who would've been the one to accept you for you. I can think of many examples where a friend of mine and I will have polar opposite qualities we are attracted to OR polar opposite views of the same action or trait.2
Most Helpful Guy
I agree that "It depends". Be yourself but share your strengths at first. Don't go on a first date and talk about being "desperate for love". But don't wait for a year down the line to share those weaknesses.1