I'll keep it short and simple:
-He's been REALLY hurt in a past relationship (to the point of attempting suicide) as well as having members of his family betray or lie him in some way (major trust issues)
-He's said he needs time to heal and that he's not considering a relationship with anyone right now
-I've already nagged him on 3 of 4 occations of wanting a relationship and moving towards an emotional closness with him but he claims he "can't" and may not ever be able to
-We have been hanging out a lot since October and he says he really likes me and that I'm a close friend to him but can't tell me how he feels about me right now
I REALLY like him and REALLY want him to be with me!! HOW DO I MAKE HIM FALL IN LOVE WITH ME , FORGET HIS BITCHY EX-GIRLFRIEND WHORE AND MAKE HIM WANT TO COMMIT TO ME, WHO REALLY LIKES HIM FOR HIM AND WOULD NEVER HURT HIM?
Please help, I really think he is special and the one for me, is there anything I can do that doesn't put anymore pressure and nagging on him as I've already done? :'(
Most Helpful Guy
Would you ask him to walk if he had a broken leg?
He's not over the ex. All you can do is be patient, and help him in ways that you can.
To give you an idea of how long your wait is, the recovery time for a highly sensitive man is between 1 and 2 times as long as the relationship lasted. This means if he was with her for a year, you might have to wait up to 2 years for him to be ready again.1
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Most Helpful Girl
You can't. You've already tried like 3 times and he has said no every single time. If you push him, it'll most likely just turn him off from you completely and he'll start distancing himself. Don't act desperate. You can't force him to like you or want to commit to you. The best thing you can do is give him time and not pressure him. He knows how you feel and he'll come to you if he feels like committing. Don't hold your breath though, you might want to start looking for other guys since this might take a while. And there's no guarantee that he'll end up wanting to be with you. He might find someone else when the time comes.0