I can't find a girl that fits my standards (which I didn't think were that difficult), so I'm thinking about what the problem is.
-She has to be good looking (7/10+, I'm also pretty good looking so its not like I'm an ugly guy asking for this)
-She has to be laid back and a nice girl, she can't be too b-tchy, sassy, high strung, or controlling.
-She has to have passions (I dont care what it is, music, art, video games, whatever, but I can't stand women that dont like to do anything but watch TV)
-She has to be my religion (Christian)
-She either has to not care about politics, or be my political affiliation, I dont want to get in arguments with her about politics.
-She has to be willing to move anywhere in the world with me (I'm super adventurous, and planning to move to Africa after graduation from college).
Other things that are pluses but not mandatory: cooking skills, musical ability, a good major that will get her a good job if necessary (STEM, Medicine, Finance/Accounting, etc), a love of kids.
What do you think? Are my standards too high? What should I get rid of to make it easier to find girls that fit my standards?
Most Helpful Girl
The best advise I was ever given was to make my "must have" list 3 things. Most successful long term couples say they picked their partner because they possessed the 2-3 most important things to them. Make sure there are not contradictions in your list (like a career driven woman who has traditional values (ie wants to be the home maker and have lots of kids) or what has already been pointed out to you-well educated career woman who is willing to drop everything and move with you)
While you can certainly have MORE than 2-3 things you want to look for, the longer your list gets, the more unlikely it is to find that woman (and the more likely you are to jump into a relationship with someone "close enough" who may not have the top 3 things you need from a woman).0
Most Helpful Guy
I believe if you have a standard for any woman, you are already beginning to fuck up... or at least thats what they say... apparently women are the only ones that can have standards lol...
jokes aside... the question i always ask anyone when they talk to me about standards is
"Can YOU match those standards?"
you can't want a 10+ when you are an 8 or 6. can't want laid back and ur high strung... can't want her to go anywhere for you but you won't go for her... etc.
I say if your list is past 5... there's a tad bit of fantasy in there and you will die alone.
in the relationship world my brother... the KEY to having a happy relationship with some is to enjoy their "positive" sides and ACCEPT their "negative" sides.
All what you listed are Expectations. and im DAMN SURE you won't like it if someone did that to you...
(eg... she wants a 9" dick and you are rocking a 6.5") not fair right?
plus you sound controlling.0