So the deal is, I am a 20 year old female in college and I am tired of being single. I am attractive (not trying to be conceited, I just know that is a factor for many people) but I never seem to get asked out by guys. I've decided the only way to get what I want here is to swallow my fear and go for it. The problem? I'm absolutely terrified. what do I say? What if I get shot down? What if im just being silly? Help!!
Most Helpful Guy
Hmm ok, I'll help you out. You can use one of 2 ways;
Person you know: Oh hey, I saw this new place over at ___________ you wanna go check it out? Or, I'm feeling bored, wanna go hang out? (If its someone you know it makes it very easy to ask someone out without it being creepy & most likely you won't get shot down that way.
Person you don't know: This one's a little tricky because when you approach someone new you don't want to come off as desperate or creepy so:
1. Observe before approach: Not stalk the person, but observe, is it someone in your class? Do they like reading? Is there a specific subject they like? Let's say you usually see them reading a certain book, take a read of that book and use it as a way to communicate and 'break the ice' Example: Oh I see you like reading (Book name) ask them what they thought of the book so far and then go from there. Maybe invite them out to a book reading if they're into that. Do they like sports? Ask them if they'd like to go with you to the next college sports event.
See, asking a person out isn't that hard when you OBSERVE before APPROACH.1
Most Helpful Girl
If you don't want the pressure that comes with a date then I would suggest just asking them to hang out with you first. Causal like at a coffee shop or something just to test the waters and see how well you vibe with them.
"Do you wanna grab coffee _______ ?"1