So I've been seeing this guy for 4 weeks now, we've only had two dates, we made out on the second date, but didn't have sex and ai miht have told him I wouldn't have sex with until the 11th date. That scared him away, he still talks to me but seems disinterested. Well I want him to be interested again, i don't want to have sex with him just yet, I wouldn't make him wait for the 11th date, but I wanted to see hos reaction. He says sex is not the only thing he'a looking for but one of the things he's looking for. Should I just be real with him and say: "look, i really like you but i am not ready to have sex, if that's what you want great, but you're mot gona get it with me" or should I try to play his game? Which one would work better on getting him interested?
How to get a guy that only wants sex?
What Guys Said 2
Speaking as a former player, you went on and put limitations... or a kind of ultimatum. Let me put it bluntly... you are NEVER going to get anything serious out of this guy. you have lost every chance to have anything serious with this guy... and you did that with your own hand.
ugh.. you women, in your attempts to try to get something to hold on to you end up destroying it.
"no sex till marriage" "no sex till the 11th date"
seriously? using sex as a weapon is a sure way of losing a guy's interest, its supposed to be something that just happens when you feel it... not something that is put on a timer or as some kind of quest.
If i were this guy and you told me this... sure... i'll pull out the note pad and start crossing out each time we date... counting down... and as soon as we have sex... Sayonara. and best part, i'd be having sex with someone else too while i count down.
cuz thats bullshit what you said/did.
(lol... to be an even bigger douchebag, i ain't paying for shit on those dates... we are gonna spend time... only)0
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What Girls Said 1
I think you should tell him the truth.0
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