My little sister , is 16 actually and this guy is 28 . He used to be a coach for her at school. At school he got let go because apparently he was texting & having inappropriate contact with her. I'm not sure of her age but it was between 14 and 16 . He got fired and was also investigated by the police. My sister ends up liking this guy. He tells her a whole bunch of sweet things ( she's pretty , wants to take her on a date , would wait for her ) etc. Being naive , she believes this. Well he has pictures on his Instagram with this other woman. ( she's 24 ) . He says he isn't dating her because she just wants to be friends , but admits to still trying to go on dates with her all while telling my little sister he likes her. So basically leading her on. Not to mention the age difference. My sister said she didn't think anything of it at the time because she liked the older guy giving her attention and made her feel special. She believed him when he said this was the first young girl he's talked to. She finally realized that the 12 year age difference was sick , so she called him. She told him that he needed help , and that there should be no reason a grown man wants to talk to a child. She also said that she didn't want to talk to him anymore. I think she did the right thing. She put him to the test and made a fake Kik pretending to be another young girl that he once taught , he even said he was attracted to her ! So obviously this guy has a long history of liking young girls. Am I the only one who sees this as an issue? Is it normal for a 29 year old man to talk to a 16 year old? How can I reassure my sister she did the right thing?
Keep in mind when he was fired for talking to another young girl , she was about 14/15 and he was 26 .
He's a paedophile in the making. He'll probably upgrade to abusing young girls. Your sister had a lucky escape, that guy is a creep. I would report him to someone, if your age of consent is higher than 16, report him to the police. If it isn't, I'd find out where he works and report him to them too. He might be using his job to get close to young girls. If you can't do these things, just tell your sister she's very strong and she definitely did the right thing.
I do not think it is wrong or abnormal for a guy that age to be attracted to a 16 year old. I DO, however, think it is entirely improper and unethical for him to try to ACT on any attraction he has. And I also think that, if one has such an attraction, getting a job at a school is way out of line, because his entire motivation for having such a job is just to be close to the girls he targets.
So, while I would defend ANY guy who was walking down the street and turned his head because he noticed a girl walk by who looked good, and he didn't care whether she was 14 or 40, I would also condemn any guy who would try to make any move on a girl who was a minor.