I voted b because I hope it's abnormal. But it's probably A. My ex was like that. He said because "you don't leave your job until you've found another one". Ewww.
I told him maybe he's had such "bad luck" in his relationships because he can't focus on just one woman. He's too insecure to give himself completely to one person. This is how I feel about anyone who has "plan bs". Plan B= plain bs. You need to realize that a relationship, unless specifically stated and agreed upon to be "open" or polyamorous, is about you and your partner. You can't leave them behind. You can't just be selfish anymore. If you don't see that person is for you, then leave them for good.
Fear of being alone? .. I don't know... Could be many different reasons... Not liking to be looked at as the person who was dumped... So rapidly moving onto someone else as if "you're so cool, that didn't hurt look at me over here with someone else 😎👫💃👏💪😛" . .. But really, they are hurt and just wanted to have someone available just in case it didn't work, so no one would see them broken down? ...
Maybe they think they are too old and if it doesn't work out with person 1, they don't feel they have time to waste, so always keeping an eye out for victim 2 lol to capture someone to share their old days with? Haha I don't know 😁😁
I think its quite common for women (I recall a survey saying almost 70% of women had a back up guy). But I also think its stupid, if you have a plan b then your not putting your efforts into plan a ie the actual relationship thus dooming it to failure. Its also messed up because its looking at the person like they are a tool something to use until a better model shows up.
For me it would be normal. My life has been all about plans A-Y not working out. Whenever I put all my hopes in one or even 2 or 3 things, I'm inevitably disappointed. With backups there's at least that sliver of hope that things might work out if not in one way then perhaps another.
I always thought it was normal to have a plan b, even a plan c, and plan f. (By the time you reach plan failure, there isn't much hope left for me.) I mean, what do you do when all else fails? Planning is good in idea, but terrible in practice!
I don't even have a "plan A". Anyway this is very offensive towards those "Plan B" people. Is like saying "Hey, don't worry! Maybe you didn't win the Golden Medal, but second place is still very good though!"
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