When I first met him I was 64kg, now I'm 59kg and on my weight loss/toning up journey at the moment. My goal is 50kg (I am 165cm). I am afraid that my boyfriend will leave me for taking so long to lose weight. He said I was beautiful when he first met me and I know he's into skinny, firm ass girls... But I don't have that at the moment. We have things in common, he praises me all the time for my good sense of humour, etc. just worried... Any ways to get him to stay while I lose the weight? Thanks!!
You're not fat, at that height you probably only need to get to 8 and a half stone so you're not far off. But anyway, I doubt he'll leave you as you are losing the weight and getting fitter aren't you? Most women would rather not do anything at all to lose weight and make all kinds of excuses not to, so the fact that you're not lazy/weak works in your favour.
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1. He dated you when you were fatter, why would he dump you know? I think it's wonderful how far you came already. 2. You're not really fat, sounds like a normal healthy weight to me. Maybe it would look even better if you went down to 55-57 kg and maintain there, but I think 50 is a bit too little. Don't get an eating disorder please :/
If you feel insecure, talk with your boyfriend about it. You're in a relationship, you should be able to talk about shit. He'll probably tell you you're beautiful as you are :)
Chances are he's with you for more than your body. If he does dump you, then you are better off without him anyway. You want a boyfriend that is going to love you for you, no matter what you look like.
Unless he points it out I wouldn't worry about it. And if he did dump you because of your weight then' he's shallow and you deserve better. That doesn't seem to be the case though based on your question. Besides, 59 kg sounds like a healthy weight... If I were you I'd maybe go down to 55 kg but that's it. I'm 167 and my weight is 55 kg. I've never heard a guy complain, quite the opposite actually. Just make sure to eat healthy and exercise and you'll have a firm ass. Squats and other exercises help too if you the look you're going for is a rounded bubble butt. Just keep in mind that muscle is heavier than fat so if you get really fit you could actually end up weighing more. You'll have better proportions though. So my advice would be to stop staring blindly at your weight and focus on how your body looks. You wouldn't want to be skinny fat, would you?
You said it yourself. When you two met you were 64kg so maybe weight isn't as important to him as you think it is. He wants/loves/loves you for who you are, not who you want to be. Or at least, he should.