My boyfriend is a heavy smoker -- like about 15 cigarettes a day, sometimes a whole pack... He's 22, and has been smoking since he's 14, so it's been a while. Very often, people say that as his girlfriend, I should tell him to smoke less, or maybe even quit.
But the thing is I don't want to be a sanctimonious girlfriend -- I know very well that's what he disliked about his previous girlfriend, who reprimanded him all the time for his weird antics. He's quite crazy, and one of the strong aspects of our relationships is that we can be crazy and immature together :^) Also neither one of us has ever ordered the other one around yet "for their own good".
For his health I wish he would smoke less though... But as silly as it may be, he truly enjoys smoking, and I would feel bad about nagging him over something he truly likes. Everyone else nags him, should I join the party :^/ ?
Thanks for your advice!
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Hmmm, let's picture this:
You: Honey, I think you should cut back because it is bad for your health.
BF: OMG. You mean smoking is not healthy? All this time, I thought it was good for me. Thank you baby. What have I done to deserve you!
There is a warning on the pack, y'know.. and I am sure your boyfriend can read... and there is no shortage of idiots who like to babble about other people's health. If the smell bothers you, you have the right to speak to him about it. Otherwise, don't say a thing. I assume you knew he was a smoker before you met him, so deal with it. ( :1