Will make this as short as possible. Just want to see what others think. Here's the story:
Been dating girl for month. Sex on 2nd date and every date afterwards. There is no problems here. Went on trip about a week ago for business. She stayed at my place night before I left. While I was gone admittedly we talked more than usual. I'd say good morning, she'd say it back.. and a couple more cute exchanges through the days but nothing crazy. I ask to Hang out when I got back but no dice as she was working and then going out of state for weekend. I didn't text again until Monday. Asked her to hang out that night. She said busy again but asked to hang out Tuesday. Texted her Tuesday just before I was about to leave and got back "ugh sorry, something came up :(". I didn't reply to that. Was going to play the no contact rule but figured I would try one more time. Texted her Saturday. Said hey, she was very quick to get back to me. Asked her to hang out and she said her Aunt was in town, her grandfather very sick. Later that day Facebook picture was changed to her and grandfather so that proved legit but later that night her Snapchat was her out with friends. BURN on my end.
I havnt talked to her since. Im playing it cool like I don't care, especially if she needs space. What do you guys think though? She was so into me, told me how much she wanted to see me when I got back and that was on the Friday I came home now she's kind of backed off. I've been going out with other people, keeping busy but she still stays in my head. Was really beginning to like this girl and right when I let my guard down it seems like she may be backing away. Hopefully the NC rule right now works.
I dont one feel as I was coming off needy by asking her to hang out when I got back since we talked about it but if I was coming off that way and she thought it I'm hoping this NC thing brings her back.
-Advice/thoughts greatly appreciated
Most Helpful Girl
Lol all these guys commenting how girl is a player if she has sex on a second date. It's so funny! I'll tell you: she liked you at first and then she lost interest. Happens ALL THE TIME. Sex has nothing to do with it. Even if you didn't have sex she would still lose interest. It could be for million reason and sometimes it happen without any reason at all. Just POOF! If she didn't liked you she most certainly would keep seeing you or have sex with you. It just faded out for her. You did nothing wrong, no matter how you acted the outcome would still be the same. It's lame from her part though, to lead you on like this and keep making excuses. Some people just have 0 confidence and wouldn't communicate like adults if their life is on the line. So they just ignore, make excuses or disappear, until you get the point and leave them alone. Just move on, forget about this immature kid.1
Most Helpful Guy
Mhmm okay here's my advice: walk away. "ugh sorry, something came up :(" is pretty much the most obvious sign that she doesn't want to see you anymore. She is giving you an obvious hint.
If she gave you sex on the second date and every date afterwards, she gives EVERY guy sex on the second date and every date afterwards. Ergo she has been seeing other guys just like you are seeing other girls (which is always a good idea, I might add, good job!). One of the other guys was likely more of a "fit" and she chose him, and she strung you along in the process.
The line "easy come easy go" didn't originate from no where.
I hate admitting it because I love sex but if a girl puts out that easily... it's sort of a red flag, unless you are only looking to hook up of course.1