Are single moms worth it? Well.. I don't really like looking at it in that kind of context, which by default implies that a single mother is like damaged goods.
Though I personally would not be interested in dating single father, or father who's got some other kids from a previous relationship, I think it really depends on what each person wants. Personally, I'd only really be interested in putting my all into raising biological children of my own that I have with my husband in the future. Especially since I'm still relatively young in terms of finding someone to be with for life.. I'd prefer to not be with someone who already has the baggage of children with anyone else.
Likewise, I'd like the guy I'm with to have a good plan in terms of finances and saving, in which having however many children from past relationships would not be a good factor.
Doesn't have to portray them in a negative light, necessarily, as that can happen in many circumstances. However, I don't find the idea of having to deal with possibly troublesome exes/stepmothers to be a risk I'd be willing to deal with. Nor would I be overly interested in cooking, cleaning, and generally looking after this kid that is mind only by proxy with being with the father.
I've dated three single moms and it never ended well. First you're always going to be #2 at best. Second dealing with her ex is a pain in the ass. And frankly, I cannot accept children who aren't mine. I want my own fresh start and firsts. Yes, all you haters even at my age. I view single mothers as damaged and used and I'll never seriously date one again. Fuck buddy, perhaps. But she will have the understand that's all we'll ever be. People can't say that I'm not honest.
The 'worth it' thing implies that somehow their having a child makes them a lesser option which is kinda... Ehh. I think that if you have enough time and are sensible enough to put yourself into a relationship where, sooner or later, you'll have to be introduced to and interact with a child, then they're good. There's nothing wrong with single moms, after all, as long as they're a good mother, but if you can't eventually put time into a child then it might not be the relationship for you.
why not.. it has no effect on her as a person... but you gotta realize that you both are gonna have to add a child into a picture as well.. he sure is her responsibility and you're also gonna have to be a little flexible.. but I think it can really work out..
Single women aren't one group of people that are all alike. Each woman is her own. So, there are mothers out there that are treasures to find and love, on the flip side, there are women out there who are terrible and probably shouldn't even have kids.
When it comes to the case of your lady friend, if she is a good person who is trying her hardest to provide for her son and a be a good person, go for it.
If you really like her and can see yourself together long-term, then go for it. You have to realize you'll be an important part of the child's life as well, so don't get into it if you don't see yourself acting as a father figure either.
It really depends on the guy and what he looks for. If you start dating her, you need to consider that in the long term, her kids will be part of your life too. If you're not ready for that kind of responsibility or only want kids of your own, dating her might be a bad idea.
If the question was reversed, my answer would be no. I wouldn't date a single dad because I don't plan to have kids... Ever
What's worth got to do with it? I simply wouldn't prefer dating them because I want my own kids. I'm partial to only that. When you say worth, its a measure, being a single mom is one of the hardest things I've seen a woman to be. Like seriously. That shouldn't be equated to worth. Never.
Pass I might bang one but not be with one it feels weird to be with a chick who already had kids with someone else adoption would be different though I have no problem with adoption. And they're kinda like the same thing, but not really.
Ummmm... you need to be looking for a serious relationship, and not just a fuck-toy... She may have already had at-least *one* guy just tell her whatever she needed to hear get into her pants and then bolt...