So there's this guy that I'm kinda dating ("kinda" because we went on few dates but we still didn't kiss or anything, he is not making any moves on me). He is overall great and treats me amazing when we are together, but he is so freaking unavailable that it's turning me off. He always has excuses why he didn't call earlier and I'm just fed up with it, I'm allergic to excuses. He would go days or a week without contacting me and it just seems like I'm nowhere on his priority list. It's always on his terms. I'm a firm believer that when a guy wants you, he will make it happen, you will know it and you won't have to come on GaG for reassurance. But yeah, here I am. I'm not asking if he likes me or what his deal is, I don't care about that, I learned the hard way to only listen to myself and to only pay attention to what I WANT and how I FEEL. And I feel lame with this guy. Call me demanding, clingy, needy, crazy... but what he offers is just not enough for me. I feel stupid every time I text him because I know he won't respond until who knows when, and then he's gonna make an excuse. Every. Time. The thing is that I am so shy and I'm not good at communicating my feelings with someone I barely know. The last time I tried bringing up the topic, I just froze because he wasn't meeting me half way and I felt uncomfortable. He gave me a weird look and then after a minute of silence he changed the topic. So I just simply can't bring myself up to talk to him again about it, it's too awkward and I feel intimidated. The only way I might have a courage to talk is via texting. Should I do it like that then? He just texted me to see what I'm up to and if I want to meet up, and I'm so not in the mood for another failed date where we talk about everything BUT us. And don't tell me that I should make a move because I already did, I tried initiating a kiss and he just blew me off. So, how do I do it?
I like him but it's not enough. How do I bring up the topic?
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Some may not agree but if you can't do it in person then I think it's fine to do it in text.
Text him and say you think he is a great guy but you need someone more consistent and attentive than what he is being right now, tell him if he wants to be that guy then great lets give it a serious go but if not then thats cool as you will find someone else who is willing to step up in which case you would rather not continue with him. Then ask him to let you know what he wants.
Basically you are saying you like him but he needs to step up hos game if he wants you and if he isn't that serious then move aside so you can find someone who is.1
Text him that you moved on, because you need to. Don't waste your time with him. Do you really think this is gonna go anywhere? It's not. Find someone else. You know how many other girls he could be seeing besides you during the time he isn't responding to you? I wouldn't trust a word he says.0
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