I have been hanging out with this guy for over a month and we barely ever text each other. This has bothered me for almost the whole time I have known him. We hang out and have a great time, usually a few times a week, and he seems to be really interested. But then I know he got a new schedule this week where we weren't able to hang out because he started working really early so I didn't see him and he of course, didn't text either. I talked to girlfriends about this and they told me all of the guys they are now in relationships with didn't text them much at first either. One of my friends had to tell her SO to text her more because he would also disappear for days, so he did. Another, also saw her boyfriend a few times a week at first so he didn't text much outside of that, and the last didn't "feel the need to talk to her every single day". So many people say that, "if he was interested he would be texting you", but every one I talk to says that is not true. They said, it was not because guys don't care or aren't on their mind, they just have other stuff going on. We thought that; women kind of put a lot of her attention and thoughts on a guy when they first meet, whereas, guys usually still think about and focus on all things in their lives equally but added to that is this girl they like mixed in too. I know this may not be true for everyone but guys and girls definitely think very differently from each other and 3/3 friends (in happy relationships) have told me that their boyfriends had sucky texting habits at first too. So what do you guys really think? Is it lack of interest or the opposite of sexes?
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It can be a bit of both a lack of interest and it being the different sex or perhaps just there personal preference. Don't forget race/ big family/ small family I think that factors in a little bit. I like to text for at least an hour if I can't call or hang out that day (fyi girlfriend was basically deaf). She had a huge family and lots of friends and I on the other hand am an introverted only child with very few friends, most of which are long distance so I text her more often then shed like and shed give be the cold shoulder or be bitchy I felt I was doing nothing wrong lol Who really know, just be thankful you don't have a paranoid personality after like 4 or 5 hours I'm thinking what the f are they doing over there? cheating? partying? ignoring me or just sleeping or what? mind goes a mile a minute and I feel like shit then, don't be like me lol1