So i met this guy through online dating... As I got to know him, he told me that he wanted to take things slow because he gets too emotionally absorbed in a relationship which only leads him to getting hurt.. so it took us a really long time to even hold hands or kiss.. After dating him for only 2 months I realized that I was beginning to fall really hard for this guy but I became unsure about how he felt cause he was always being so cautious.. I had a talk with him on where he sees this relationship going because we did meet through online dating so I was a bit skeptical.. He told me that he likes me and he's attracted to me but he feels like we lack common interest and values.. He told me he usually dates people that he has common interest with but because we met through online dating I'm very different.. I realized that he started weighing the pros and cons about me and he's kind of over analyzing everything cause he doesn't want to jump into a relationship if it might not work out. i realized that he was setting up walls just so he doesn't get hurt and it left me more confused as to where this relationship was headed. After that talk, we decided to get to know each other better and our relationship kind of improved because he invested more time to meet me and he's been more affectionate.. We even ended up having sex and i feel a lot closer to him.. Its been 4 months now so i brought up the topic of what we are because i thought its more than enough to get to know someone within that time frame.. when i brought up the topic he told me he felt unsure because he felt like we lacked connection and i don't really understand his sense of humor.. but then he told me he likes me and he tried to hug me.. i started crying and at that moment i decided to just leave him so i ended up just walking out on him..
did i make the right decision?
Most Helpful Guy
Of course you made the right decision. Who needs that kind of aggravation? Good relationships aren't that much pain.0
Most Helpful Girl
Yes, I think you made the right decision.
The right guy is the one who isn't indecisive about wanting to be with you. He seems to have doubts, and was honest about that fact. So at least he let you know where you stand with him.
You both seem to want different things out of the relationship. You want comittment, it seems he isn't ready for that. So ending it means you can now look for a guy who doesn't have doubts about being with you, and wants to be in a committed relationship... like you do.0