Just a background of my relationship -- My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years now and we're both in our late 20's.
My boyfriend constantly likes the girls pictures on Instagram, which is okay to me if they're his friends; however, he's constantly liking the same girl's (maybe 4 or 5) pictures who he doesn't follow, which means that he has to type in their username to go to their page and a lot of them don't have a strong following, just girls he finds attractive. I know that he's not sending them direct messages, but I still feel a little uncomfortable with him constantly going on these girls' pages (who he's not friends with) and liking these girls pictures. I haven't approached him regarding this yet, but I don't know if I should. I'm a very confident person too, but this makes me feel uncomfortable. Am I making this situation into a big deal? if not, should i say something to him? Thoughts?
Most Helpful Guy
Now this is a bit of a complicated question. Us men are generally visual creatures. But it seems like to me its a harmless fantasy for now.
If it is affecting your relationship or you feel that its something that you don't like though why not sit down and talk to him about it? Don't be accusatory, just mention that you noticed he does this and it makes you feel uncomfortable and would he please stop. You can't stop him from doing it, but if he respects your feelings perhaps he will agree.
There is another route to this though that can be considered. I'm assuming you look at the pictures of the women as well as to how you noticed it. But perhaps make it thing to try and do it with him, turn something negative into a bonding thing. If you are into it, talk to him about it and say it makes you feel uncomfortable if he does it alone but perhaps it can be something you can do together? Laying in bed in the evening, find pictures y'all like and share them with one another. Talk about them and give your opinions on why they might be attractive. Who knows perhaps it will bring you closer and help you gain some insight into his mind.0
Most Helpful Girl
You're not making it into a big deal, it's normal to feel uncomfortable about the subject. If you tell him directly about how you feel, he will either understand and explain himself, or he will think you're insecure for going through that time to figure out he's out liking those girls' pictures (who he doesn't follow). If someone is in a relationship, they need to know that even on social media they should respect it! The only advice I can give you is communicate with him, and mention the females he keeps looking up. It's weird he does have to search them up in order to like their pictures. If they were friends, why not just follow them, right? I wish you the best!! :)0