Some guys are being trained to be mean to lower the womans self esteem.. that. s how they catch the woman. Some guys are narcissistic, which means they are selfish and don't care about your feelings so... they don't care if they are mean and being mean makes them feel better about themselves as they lower you. .. e. g. they are really sick people IMHO.
Other guys just don't know they are being mean when they say or do something because they don't know what you are sensitive to.
Lastly, communication male to female is difficult as we are wired and think so differently. Words mean different things, have different connotations, etc.. So, we have to work hard at communication.
Not all guys are mean, we try to be nice, but can be mean just by being in sensitive to your sensitivities.
Women by the way have 2x the number of nerve endings on their skin than men. So we are "duller" in sensitivity. We are lesser in emotional empathy (until matured).
The real question is why are you attracted to mean guys cause we aren't all mean. Are you attracted to kind, sweet, nice guys? Most women are not... and so there is your answer... y'all keep breeding bad guys:)
I don't think being mean is gender specific -I've met plenty of mean girls in my time too.
I know from personal experience that sometimes guys can come across as being mean, when in actual fact they're just being extremely forward or honest. As a sensitive person, I used to take everything to heart and assume they were being mean, but now I recognize that's its just brutal forwardness/honesty. In saying that though, this doesn't apply to all guys, and it certainly can apply to women too.
Well I have known a few guys that are very mean to women, they never listen to her.. they want to be in control all the time.. these guys that do that.. I have no use for ever.. but I do find many guys are way meaner to other guys.. and some have even out of the blue confronted me.. I do not go looking for trouble.. but not scared in the least to fight an idiot like this if he keeps in my face and does not get the message he should be getting.
And that message would be... Back the dam truck up who the hell do you think you are.. guys have always been that way towards other guys.. but when they do it with women.. I hope the women gets out of there fast.. women should be treated way better then that.. the ones I date are always put on high on my list.. and never would I be mean to one
Nobody is ever mean. People just lack the ability to express themselves. Miscommunication lead to the internalization of negative emotions you associate with the other person. You don't really hate anything. You just don't understand. Which can be frustrating.