I am a decent person, well educated and quiet. I am not slutty nor do I sleep around. The only guys I seem to meet are guys that want one thing (I know there are girls like that out there too). I really don't get it, I don't go to bars/clubs that often. Like I had a date w/a guy that just started to talk to me as I was walking home. I went w/him to a public place and as soon as he found out that I am not one to sleep around he rejected me right away (he actually wanted me to come to his place). Are there any decent guys out there? I am not naive or stupid, just very cautious.
Most Helpful Guy
There are decent guys, I just don't think many people are mature right now. Most young people just want to have fun and then it hits them they are 30 and all alone. Time wasted money wasted with nothing. Lots of guys specifically just want sex because society tells them its what they should have before they settle down, which is foolish. They wanna tell their stupid friends about all the girls they've had while drinking beers and being a child. I m no longer like that, and want just one woman for the rest of my life, i'm good. Hope that answers your question, not all Cus the same (just 95% haha, and no you are not stupid). GOOD LUCK!3
Most Helpful Girl
There is a large and an ever-widening divide between people with the mindset that sex is only for marriage/very serious relationships and people who see it as a casual aspect of dating--or even an act that provides them with necessary information about the other person early on in the relationship from which they make their decision about whether or not to commit. Past a certain age especially, telling a man (or woman, for that matter) that you will not have sex with them until they have proved themselves over a long period of time or after an elaborate set of requirements have been met is generally a deal-breaker to the latter group. Do not think that there's something about you that's wrong or in need of correction before you can "attract a certain type of man". Just realize that the odds of being asked out by someone in the second group remain high, and you may need to actively seeking a very specific type of man (generally a religious one, but in case that's not the reason you put off the act, trust me when I say you can still find one even if they're less common. I've dated two atheist men who either didn't mind waiting or in one case preferred to take things even slower than I did.) Lastly, please don't judge men or women who have sex early in a relationship as being somehow any less decent than you. It may be frustrating to someone in your position to feel like you are incompatible with a lot of men because of the difference in your views on sex, but they are not bad men who don't care about all of the other great qualities you have just because sex remains high on their priority list. "Slutty" women have already figured this out and are often in happy, committed relationships with high quality men for it. If you still don't think there's any decent men out there, maybe reexamine your definition of "decent".0