Why is it that the majority of the guys I bump into (either online or in person) are not looking for anything serious. Where do these other women find these guys that like to go out on real dates and enjoy time together... not just screw and run. So many interesting things to do in my city and yet I can't find a great guy to enjoy them with or get to know.
Sometimes I feel like walking up to a girl and being like "hey where did you get him from?".. you know like when a girl digs another girls outfit "hey I love your outfit where did you get that?"...
My girlfriends have the same problem as well. Is it something in the air? Is dating dead... what gives?
Well you are at your 30s and you started to notice that all the good men are either taken or gay.
This is for good reasons. Imagine you were in your mid to late 20s and you noticed a decent guy. What are the chances that you would let him get away? That's right! The good guys got nabbed pretty quickly the moment they pop into the market and what you are left with are men living their extended childhood into their 30s. Don't worry because there are a lot of good guys just waiting to be found. They have some kind of social flaw that prevented them from being discovered so you will have to look a little harder.
To find the good men who didn't get nabbed requires a little digging. These guys don't stand out of a crowd. They aren't noticeable. They are like ninjas and women tend to ignore them - that's why they are still available. They might have low to no social skills or some social flaw that prevented them from getting a partner. They might talk little and tend to be a little silent even on texts, facebook, social media and even on emails. Thus, these guys tend to have a close circle of friends and families in single digits. They are straight to the point when they want to talk or they fumble around a little but rarely leading the conversation around.
Also, you have to identify 3-5 things you really want in your guy. These traits have to be concrete and you must be able to confirm them for certain. For example, honesty can not be confirmed for certain while financial stability is as you can spot a fake quickly. Another one would be ambition as people tend to talk big but failed at the 1st obstacle; Be driven is an easier trait to spot because these guys tend to be excited about what they do.
Honestly, there is no secret place where the good guys grow. It's all about taking chances and making your desires and expectations known and doing so confidently. That'll weed out the players and bring in the guys who are seriously into it.
real response though, you just gotta keep trying until you find someone who wants the same thing, you know its different for everyone. some people meet their match the first time, others don't meet their match until like the 10th, 15th, or even 20th person.
Just because they just wanna have sex doesn't mean they aren't good men... they are good, but with different priorities.
Just keep meeting men. There's no specific place where to find men interested in relationships, unless you go to like meetings specifically for that. Try to avoid meeting guys at clubs and bars, there's little chances of finding boyfriend material there.
cause it's pointless to look for something serious randomly, you have to start slowly and then if you realize the relationship is meaningful and deep it naturally becomes something serious, but you can't force it, it's not a deal, you're not buyinga car..
some of us guys are still looking for dating and relationships
you know what they say. the shitflies go to shit. its always a two ways thing.
We're out there. Women just seem to ignore us. You love confidence in a man and most good MEN don't show confidence unless its needed. Go for a shy guy once in awhile. Just because you're not attracted to him now, doesn't mean you never will be. Most successful marriages are between people who were friends fist and have known each other for a long time. Women seem to either want instant sparks, love and sexual attraction at first sight rather than work for it. That's why most divorces are by Women. Once they feel the spark is gone, they just want out without working for it.