I feel as though my first impression makes me look boring. I feel like I come off as a guy who treat a girl wonderfully but not be that exciting. What needs to change to make me more appealing? I understand that girls say they want a nice guy who will treat them the best way possible (which is me) but why do they really want?
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Honestly here's the thing that guys always miss: girls DO want a nice guy who treats them well, but in my experience (even with the guy I began seeing) the issue was more than he made everything about appealing to me and proving what a great guy he could be for me. You easily lose your personality in the "nice guy" bit and it can make you seem uninteresting or like you are either hiding your personality or are simply void of one. I had to ask a guy once to actually talk to me about himself and be more about himself instead of just constantly focusing solely on me. We want a partner who is an individual, not a person who is just there to serve us.
Also, I know many women won't admit this but sometimes we want a few more traditionally "masculine" (I say loosely) traits, like being forward and a touch aggressive perhaps in opinions you're passionate about, or what have you.
So honestly, all I can say is don't lose yourself in your partner and you should be fine.2