This might sound messed up to some but before you judge please try and understand what I am saying.
I have a very strong feeling my boyfriend and I will get married. I am certain he is the one. He is my bestfriend and soulmate. Weve talked about the future and we both know we want to be with eachother. When im with him everything makes sense, we make each other so happy.
I've had this thing circulating in my head for awhile, obviously when you're in a relationship you can't be with other people or its called cheating. I dont want to be a cheater. Im young, 20 years old to be exact. This future talk with my boyfriend is amazing, pretty much what every girl wants but i feel like i need to date other guys (not seriously, just have some fun during university) until i for real settle down. I am faithful to my boyfriend and i am always honest with him. I've brought up taking a break with him before and he said no because that means i want to sleep with other guys (its true). Am i wrong for wanting to experiment before i settle? Im not going to fall in love with anyone as my boyfriend is the only one who has my heart, i just want to have a little fun because i feel like society wants me too. I feel like ill regret it if i dont.
If this was to happen, i wouldn't expect my boyfriend to sit at home and wait for me. Id expect him to have fun aswell. However he is not the type to have one night stands. He doesn't get satisfaction from it. So more than likely, if this was to happen he would be sitting at home being depressed. My intention isn't to hurt him, i just want to do this for myself.
He is my life and i dont want to lose him but i feel so pressured to have that 'experience',
Most Helpful Guy
Do you know hie much are you hurting him when you talk about dating ither guys?
You are very slutty and selfish . if you think that way... you should think before you talk
I dont care if you fell pressured ir what not.
But if you are telling him that you want to date and take a break till your heart satisfies then you are breaking his heart...
This is not how a relationship works..
You should break up with him... he deserves so much better and not a slut like you.
Also kniw this thing that the type of girl who dates around too much or eeps around is the type if girl we guys dont marry cause such girls are sluts...
Do if you want to be a slut then be one.. but dont expect your boyfriend to keep up with your pathetic perverted thoghts
There are only two ways here..
Either you breakup and be a slut or stop thinking about it
Either ways he should dump you causs love is fake abd nit real... and he deserves a real women and not a waanaa be slut like you...
Most Helpful Girl
I get it, and I don't blame you, because you're only human. When you're young, not that experienced, and thinking of serious commitment with one person for the rest of your life (you hope), it's an expected fear or doubt to have that you might be missing out. Even if you love him, this is your life and you wonder if you'll regret it when you're older and look back on this time.
The truth is, you might, or you might not, but think about what you have right now. How much do you value that? Is it worth risking? It's very possible you'll find out that "having some fun" is really not all it's cracked up to be. You might be taking what you have for granted, and will regret taking the break and probably damaging a great relationship for a bit of fun that isn't really worth it. Having a boyfriend you're attracted to, who you love and trust, could be way better.
It's up to you, but think about it long and hard. Does he really mean as much as you say he does to you? Are there cracks in your relationship that this doubt and insecurity is a cover for - and can those be addressed instead? Also, your boyfriend doesn't seem on board with this idea, so if you want to go through with it, you'll have to be prepared to lose him.
Just think about these things and consider what's best for you, him, and the both of you. I don't really know you or what your relationship is like, so I won't advise you either way, I'll just tell you to look at every angle.1