My boyfriend and I met on tinder. We've been dating exclusively for three months now. He was the one who brought up being exclusive after a month and told me he really liked me. He asked for my phone password and gave me his. The other day I found text msgs from the girl he was dating from tinder before me. I found out in the first month we dated he went and helped her move by himself and stayed at his place because it was in another city. I did not about this until now. I saw msgs asking for his help months before we were together so he had already made the commitment to help he way back. The thing is when I confronted him he said nothing had happened and the reason things ended between them is there was no potential to become serious (she was not serious material). He said they remained friends and still talk to this day. She lives in anothe city but I saw a few recent message of his asking her to meet for lunch one day and him going to visit her while he would be in the city. He swears he had no interest in her romantically but just felt they got along so still value he friendship. This bothers me that he still wants to see her and talk to her. Am I over reacting?
Most Helpful Guy
I wouldn't say over reacting. It's definitely worth a worry. However, if he says he has no interest and you two have been exclusive for 3 months now, he has no interest. If he wanted her he would have her by now. You should trust him but still make sure he knows that he doesn't need anyone else. If you care about him let him make his own decision. Reinforce you're all he needs instead of trying to control who he thinks he needs. If you can trust him and prove you're what he needs and more he will be stuck to you like glue.
Most Helpful Girl
I am having flashbacks reading this. My ex continued to talk to his ex even after I told him how much it bothered me. You won't win this battle. He is holding onto his ex for a reason--and that reason could be a number of things. Maybe he still has feelings for her, maybe she is his safety net incase you and him don't work out. Your relationship is still brand new. Three months is not a long time. Don't stress over this. You'll drive yourself crazy if you do. Don't get angry or upset, just sit back and observe.0