We met online first so we truly ended up falling in love with the personality. Weight is an issue I've had since I was a child. I have already lost 30 kg's but I still have some to lose. My boyfriend has never really hid that he thinks I am chubby but he has been very accepting saying that he loves me and will help me work on it. Still it's hurtful when he goes "I'm not saying you have a perfect body. Because you don't. But I'm trying my best to overlook it" which was a knife to my heart because I know my body is not perfect I know that but I have worked hard to get where I am now and I am just not sure how to cope with the feeling my boyfriend judges me.
1. All people judge. Being in a relationship with that person is definitely not a free pass to not be judged by them. Who ever you date is going to judge you. They may not vocalize it but it's going to happen. So don't focus on whether or not people should or should not be judging you focus on how to live happily despite the judgement of others. 2. He's a dick for wording things that way. He may be speaking his honest mind but he has poor empathy skills and should definitely work on his tact.
I met a girl one time she looked good on the Internet but I didn't go meet her as in a relationship. But needless to say meeting her in person changed everything, we didn't even hit it off as friends and that was the last time that I remember that we spoke to each other. So even though she looked and sounded decent personality and looks too can both fail when meeting someone in person.
Hey at least you managed to get someone it could be worse you could be a fat guy cause we all know women don't like or date fat men. Also those saying he's a dick or an asshole for telling the truth get over it cause I doubt you'd be saying the same thing if the roles were reverse.
He's the only extra weight you should be dropping because he sounds like an asshole. If he didn't like you as you are he shouldn't have given you false hope. He's a coward. If you want to lose weight do it for yourself, which is really the only reason you should have to lose weight. Don't do it for acceptance. Sometimes people will reject you even after you lost the weight.
He sounds like a dick. Well done for working on your body, losing 30 kgs :o Sounds like you need someone who is more supportive. Because that sounds like great progress, and you don't need someone being rude to you
dump his ass. he is not accepting nor supporting of your weight. if he was truly accepting, he would never bring it up. if he was truly supportive, he would motivate you in a positive way not a negative way like he does
Your boyfriend is a complete asshole and you have poor self-esteem that why you tolerate his jerkish behavior. Dump him.
Imagine if a woman told a man She is trying to over look his height, dick size, face... etc would it not upset him? He should try to over look it but have already over looked it. Seems like he is settling , gun you can do better. Loose the weight for you, but leave him first he is sticking around for the benefits... smh