I am agnostic but belong to a rather strict Christian family. He is Muslim and follows Islam quite closely. He is the first proper relationship I've had and I'm the first relationship he has had. I love him a lot and don't question that he loves me too. But frankly I can't take religious people seriously, except I've learned to deal with them and accept the religious because of my family background. We both are secrets to each others families and I'm getting sick of that. I want someone I can take home, and he will never be anyone I could take home and introduce to my family just because he's Muslim. And he can't introduce me because I'm not Muslim. He says that if I convert he'll introduce me but I am 1000% sure I don't want to. I know I need to break up but I am finding it so hard to do because I think its stupid that some barrier created by humans is all that's keeping us apart. But to him it isn't a human barrier its something divine so there's no winning.
Most Helpful Guy
The human heart makes a tangled weave... people are attracted in the sub conscious. So something about this guy is familiar to the child wounds in your heart. for example, if your father was controlling and domineering (my guess since you say they are strict), this muslim guy may appear the same and so he is comfortable and familiar.
I agree you need to abondon this... I only know of a few examples of people marrying like this and it was bad. Not to say all are, just imagine the disagreements and power struggles unless yo are really submissive which it sounds like you are not!
Challenge is, who are you gonna take home to strict Christians they are gonna accept? Be ready for the backlash. You rebelled or didn't accept their faith for some reason. There are more flaws with church than I can count (because it is filled with people), but I still believe and attend. Was that a logical decision or an emotional one.. I'd bet emotional. The more controlling and imposing the family I find the worse the rebellion as the children see through the flawed people and live out their own human ness.
Try visualization: Imagine yourself trapped in your home covered head to toe in black, with no engagment with anyone other than your husband... and he turns into a controlling ass... possibly like your father (my guess). How does that make you feel? Imagine him taking your kids back to xyzastan and leaving you behind (seen that before) or his insistence he wants to have a slave wife or something. .. you asked how to break the bonds. the other way is counseling...1
Most Helpful Girl
If you believe its a barrier created by humans, Then you of all people can certainly test that barrier. you're human after all. Try stepping into his shoes. Im the same way except i dont care what my parents think. I've only ever been exposed to christianity. One day if it ever comes up i think id give it an honest approach. Try stepping into his shoes, view things through his religion. You can't discredit all religion based on disagreeing with the only one im assuming youve ever been exposed to. Buy some books, (ask em about it) im not saying i know but Until you open mindedly study and explore his religion then its your own fault that ur not together. Give it an honest approach. See what happens. You never know.1