Yesterday I rejected him, I told him as nice as I could that I can't be in a relationship with him. He's a great a guy and I felt really bad doing this but we're in the same group of friends and I really want to be ok. It would suck to end our friendship just because of this. He said it's ok but he seemed really hurt... What should I do to stay friends and to be really ok? Should I give him a few days of space or should I message him today? Casual talk, you know... And also, it's ok if I ask some of our friends how is he rn? I appreciate any advice. Xx
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From someone who has experience asking girls out. I'l tell you that it really depends on the guy whether you can be friends with him after that or not.
It really depends on the guy and how he thinks. Usually, If he really really had a crush on you, then it's never a good idea to be friends with him because he will always have this little hope in him.
If he had a slight crush on you or has a good way of thinking and moving on, then he might be okay with being friends after finding out that he doesn't have a chance with you and will forget about making a move on you.
So it completely depends on him, just wait to see how he will be reacting. If he doesn't have a strong mind or doesn't know how to adapt and feels weird if he sees you again, he will try to avoid seeing you for a long time. If he just avoided for the first couple weeks then came back then he might just have needed some time for himself.
Don't initiate with him, and don't ever even slightly flirt with him. One time i asked out a girl who i had a huge crush on (huge). She turned me down but didn't tell me anything to make things clearer for me. I apologized to her after a while and asked to stay friends and start a new page. She seemed happier and more comfortable but i kinda had hopes again and asked her out once again. That was back in my first days asking people out haha. We didn't see each other again afterwards and she avoided me big time. It killed me but thinking about it now i'm glad it happened because i would have kept being attached to her.