I don't know why, but I have a hunch, a gut feeling, that he just may be cheating. I feel bad for thinking this cause I know he's a great guy. I started feeling this feeling when I saw a girl call his phone. He said it was one of his friends, which I understand he does have friends who are girls. I have one or two guy friends too but you don't see them calling me and I hardly talk to them out of respect for my SO because I wouldn't want him thinking anything. But the girl who called him I've never heard of her before and she just randomly calls him? I found it odd. So when he's sleeping I've been taking his phone and checking for anything that involves cheating. So far I've seen that he's deleted all the pictures of us and me which could be for other reasons but in my mind I'm thinking other things and I just may confront him about that. But unless he's been deleting things I haven't seen anything so far. I really feel bad for doing it but obviously if he is, he wouldn't tell me, that's why it's called cheating. I'm doing it because we live together and I need to know if I need to pack my things and leave..
Most Helpful Guy
Well its clear you want your relationship to end because you have already decided its going to end and are at the moment just looking for an excuse to leave. He deleted some pictures of you and him? So what, phones have limited space. A girl called him once, again so what? Nothing you stated suggest cheating, the only thing it suggest is that you are either a) insecure and are more then willing to push that insecurity off on to him, or b) you want an excuse to get out of your relationship but feel you can't come out right and do it so your trying to find a reason for why HE is the one who ruined the relationship not you (this is suggested by your seemingly indifference to the cheating and the mentioning moving out, clearly your priorities are not on the relationship). So if its A, then you need to stop projecting your fears onto him and learn to accept yourself. If its B, then just break up with him and be done with it, no reason to drag him through the mud (when he has done no wrong) simply because your afraid to get your hands dirty by ending a perfectly good relationship.0
Most Helpful Girl
Snooping isn't ok and it isn't something that happens in a healthy relationship. You need to sort out your trust issues. If you really do believe he is cheating, you need to talk to him about it. You're gonna learn a lot more from his reaction than you will from snooping.
What you're doing is wrong and it is not respectful of the relationship you have. You either trust your partner or you don't, and if it's the latter you talk about it, not go sneaking around through his phone behind his back.0